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BEYOND SEX FOR GRADES: A VALUE SYSTEM IN TATTERS

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BY RAY NKAMA
All over the world, the girl child and and woman are considered to be among the most vulnerable groups when it comes to sexual harassment and exploitation. The United Nations and other international interventionist bodies have continued to cry out against the different forms of sexual violence that these vulnerable groups have been subjected to over time. In developing climes like Africa, some of these aberrations have attained untamed dimensions largely as a result of multidimentional poverty which in itself is a concomitant effect of leadership failure across the continent. Most African leaders are more interested in political power than in the entrenchment of good governance and the building of strong institutions that will outlive them. It is against the backdrop of this misplaced orientation that African leaders have paved the leeway for all sorts of unimaginable problems to find their ways into the continent.
Sex for Grades is a product of a very poor and comatose value system which tries to justify it. Our collective folly of placing higher premium on academic certifications over skills and innate ability has become our greatest undoing. This is the reason you find that most of our graduates are unemployable; they have gone to tertiary institutions to acquire certificates that they cannot defend. And this is why our girls and women would trade their bodies for grades because, as they say, “the end justifies the means”. This jaundiced understanding of the Machiavellian principle has been greatly catalysed by ignorance and desperation. More so, it has remained a malignant social tumour that is eating away our collective reputation as black people.
In Nigeria where we have allowed ourselves to be polarised along ethnic, religious, political and sectional lines, it can only take decades of value reorientation before we can address some of the issues affecting our girls and women. This is so much so because, over the years, we have celebrated mediocrity and downgraded excellence. We have rewarded criminals and punished people of goodwill who carried intellectual substance. We have held innovators in low esteem and have praised imitators to high heavens. The future we ordered is now upon us and generations unborn. We must dance the macabre dance of the drumbeats we paid the monster to play for us. 
How do we reconcile the sad fact that our girls and women would now have to sleep with their teachers before they can pass exams to the sordid reality that even ‘men of God’ are involved in this attitudinal malady. There have been cases of sports women who were dropped from tournamentcamps because they refused to open their legs for their coaches. Even the award of contracts is now a matter which woman is ready to play ball with those in charge.
Sex for Grades is only a miniature aspect of the totality of our collapsing value system. The problem is so severe that it requires  concerted efforts to address. We must tackle certain social concerns like poverty, illiteracy, tribalism and sectionalism before we can get other issues right.  We must begin to recognise and reward excellence and put an end to the practice of celebrating material wealth. We must compel our lawmakers to enact laws that would protect our girls, women and all other vulnerable groups. Our justice dispensation system must be without any form of partisanship so that criminality would be dealt the deadly blow.
We can achieve all of these if we are ready to change our individual mindsets and existential orientations. We can still attain greatness as a state or nation if we work collectively to build sound institutions that thrive on strong value and belief systems just as our amiable Governor Engr. David Umahi is doing through the office of the SA, Attitudinal Change. The mission is that no Ebonyi State indigene will be associated with criminality henceforth. None of our girl children and women will be caught trading sex for grades. And it is our un-monopolistic belief that all Nigerian states would share this mission by setting up value reorientation mechanisms within their territories to help in the war against the avalanche of social maladies that are crippling our youths, especially the girl children and women. The BBC SexForGrades documentary is only a tip of the iceberg. Their are many things wrong with the crawling lizard; only its belly can tell.

Ray Nkama is Special Assistant on Attitudinal Change to the Executive Governor of Ebonyi State.


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CAN Calls for Compassion and Crowd Management Reform After Stampede Tragedy In Anambra, Oyo State 

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CAN Calls for Compassion and Crowd Management Reform After Stampede Tragedy In Anambra, Oyo State 

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In the wake of the tragic stampede at Holy Trinity Catholic Church in Maitama on Saturday, the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) has expressed deep sorrow and called for improved measures to manage large crowds during charitable events.

In a statement titled “A Heartfelt Response to the Tragedy at Holy Trinity Catholic Church” issued on Sunday, CAN President, Archbishop Daniel Okoh, described the incident as “not just statistics” but a devastating loss affecting real families. He offered condolences to the bereaved families and called for collective support and understanding.

“The National Leadership of the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) is disturbed by the tragic events at Holy Trinity Catholic Church in Maitama on Saturday morning. We have learned that at least ten people, including children, lost their lives in a stampede while trying to seek help from the church,” Okoh stated.

“This tragedy is not just statistics; it represents real families who are hurting. Each person lost was someone’s beloved family member. We wish to express our heartfelt condolences to the Catholic Church and to the families affected by this terrible incident. We stand together with you in this time of sadness and prayer,” he added.

The incident, which occurred during a charitable event, is part of a concerning trend. Archbishop Okoh highlighted two other tragic stampedes that took place earlier this month in Nigeria.

On December 18, a Christmas funfair in Ibadan turned deadly when a stampede claimed the lives of 35 children and left six others critically injured. The event, intended to distribute cash and food to over 5,000 children, has since come under investigation for potential lapses in crowd management.

In another instance, a rice distribution event in Anambra State resulted in the deaths of 22 people and injuries to 32 others. Both incidents underscore the challenges associated with organizing large-scale charitable efforts in the country.

“These heartbreaking incidents highlight the challenges of managing large crowds during charitable events. In the face of these tragedies, we recognize the importance of coming together to support those who are grieving,” Okoh said.

He urged Nigerians to show compassion and solidarity in these trying times. “It is crucial that we listen to one another, share our feelings, and offer help in any way we can. This is a time for compassion and understanding as we help one another heal,” the CAN president emphasized.

The CAN leadership also called for a review of protocols and strategies to ensure the safety of participants at charitable events, aiming to prevent similar tragedies in the future.

 

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A Safer Tomorrow: Lessons from a Tragic Event

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A Safer Tomorrow: Lessons from a Tragic Event

The sun was just beginning to rise over the bustling city of Ajayi as hundreds of people gathered outside the Civic Center. The event, a food distribution drive organized by a well-meaning NGO, promised relief to those struggling amidst the recent economic downturn. What began as a hopeful morning turned into a day etched in sorrow.

By noon, the crowd had swelled to thousands, including women cradling children, elderly men leaning on walking sticks, and teenagers who had come to secure meals for their families. The organizers, overwhelmed by the turnout, tried to maintain order, but the narrow entrance to the distribution hall became a bottleneck. As impatience grew, the atmosphere shifted from hopeful to tense.

When the gates finally opened, chaos erupted. People surged forward, pushing and shoving in a desperate bid to be among the first to receive the aid. A child’s cry pierced the air as bodies pressed against each other. Within moments, the situation spiraled out of control. In the ensuing stampede, dozens were injured, and eight lives were lost, including three children.

The tragedy sent shockwaves through the community and drew nationwide attention. Critics lambasted the event organizers for failing to anticipate the crowd size and implement adequate safety measures. The government, too, faced scrutiny for its lack of proactive policies to prevent such incidents.

In the days following the tragedy, the city of Ajayi became a focal point for discussions on public safety and crowd management. At a press conference, Mayor Adedayo Adekunle expressed profound regret for the loss of lives and pledged swift action. “This is a wake-up call for all of us. We cannot allow such a preventable tragedy to happen again. The safety of our citizens must always come first,” he stated.

In response, the city council introduced a new set of regulations for public events. Under the policy, any gathering expected to host more than 200 attendees required pre-approval from the newly formed Event Safety Commission (ESC). Organizers would need to submit detailed plans, including crowd control strategies, medical response teams, and security personnel deployment.

The ESC also mandated that venues have multiple entry and exit points to prevent bottlenecks, provide ample drinking water, and deploy trained volunteers to assist with managing queues. Additionally, the city’s emergency response hotline was upgraded, and public awareness campaigns were launched to educate citizens on safety protocols during large gatherings.

The tragedy also inspired grassroots efforts. Community leaders organized workshops on crowd safety and first aid. Churches, mosques, and other organizations reevaluated their event planning processes, emphasizing safety above all.

One of the most poignant moments came during a memorial service for the victims. Family members and community members gathered to honor the lives lost and advocate for change. Among the speakers was Mrs. Ifeoma Nnaji, who lost her six-year-old daughter, Ada, in the stampede. Holding back tears, she addressed the crowd: “Ada’s life was precious, and her death must not be in vain. Let this be the last time we mourn such a loss. Let us learn, let us act, and let us protect each other.”

Months later, Ajayi’s efforts began to show results. A subsequent food distribution event, held at a larger venue with stringent safety measures in place, went smoothly. Attendees praised the organizers and city officials for their diligence, noting how the lessons from the past had been implemented effectively.

The tragedy in Ajayi became a turning point for the entire nation. State governments adopted similar policies, and collaborations between public and private sectors strengthened safety frameworks. While the scars of that fateful day remained, the collective response demonstrated resilience and a commitment to preventing such incidents in the future.

As the city moved forward, it carried with it the memory of those who had lost their lives. Their legacy became a catalyst for change, ensuring that public events in Ajayi—and beyond—would be safer for everyone.

Epilogue

In a quiet corner of the city’s central park, a memorial was erected in honor of the victims. Inscribed on it were the words: “In their memory, we build a safer tomorrow.” It served as a somber reminder of the past and a beacon of hope for the future.

 

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Christmas Party Tragedy: Seasoned Movie Producer, Bukky Amos-Bello, Expresses Support for Queen Naomi, Sympathizes with Victims

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Christmas Party Tragedy:
Seasoned Movie Producer, Bukky Amos-Bello, Expresses Support for Queen Naomi, Sympathizes with Victims

 

A top Nollywood actress and movie producer, Arewa Bukky Amos-Bello, has joined numerous well-wishers who have expressed their support for former queen of Ife Kingdom, Naomi Silekunola, who is currently facing challenges following a tragic stampede at a charity event she organised in Ibadan, resulting in loss of children’s lives.

 

The beautiful thespian popularly called Ajitannawo, in a statement made available to journalists on Sunday, sent a message of encouragement, urging Queen Naomi to stay strong.

 

 

In her heartfelt message, Arewa Amos-Bello expressed sorrow over the incident and offered prayers for Queen Naomi’s courage and resilience in the face of the tragedy.

 

“Be strong and courageous; the Lord is with you. And He will never forsake you my Queen Silekunola. My heart goes out to you in this sorrowful time of yours. My prayer is with you always. God bless you in this difficult time,” Arewa Bukky wrote, while she offered her sincere condolences to families and parents of the victims.

 

Arewa Amos-Bello stated that she feels every bit of what Queen Naomi feels at the moment because she is also a philanthropist who understands that the former Ife Queen did what she did with good intentions.

 

She added;

“I know she meant well because I’m also into charity. The Ibadan event was not her first nor was it the second. We can only pray that God help her and console the victims.”

 

“I want to assure her of my valid support; she is not alone. Her struggles are valid and real, and in acknowledging this, she finds our solidarity. When things like this happen, we may feel ashamed and find it hard to cope, yet even in such a dark time as this, we share our burdens, support one another, and find strength in our unity. She must not give up on her goal and she is encouraged to stand tall against the odds. She is never alone in this journey, she will overcome.”

Christmas Party Tragedy:
Seasoned Movie Producer, Bukky Amos-Bello, Expresses Support for Queen Naomi, Sympathizes with Victims

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