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Singles Talk’: Apostle Suleman Itemizes Three of Eight Kinds of Love

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Apostle Suleman Itemizes Three of Eight Kinds of Love

 

There are so many demands when the topic is love. Many often think of love just in terms of romance. But God’s servant, Apostle Johnson Suleman, says love between friends with no strings attached can be thought of as real love, and they can be just as powerful. Itemizing three of eight different concepts of love that exist, Apostle Suleman helps the singles understand what kind of love that should be made important.

 

 

 

Of the eight kinds of love, the famous preacher notes that people are familiar with only three. These eight are; Storage, Ludus, Pragma, Mania, Philautia, Eros, Philia, and Agape. But people only know Eros, which is ‘sexual attraction’, Philia, which is ‘friendship’, and Agape, which is ‘general love’.

 

 

Suleman explains one particular type of love believed to be dangerous among the eight because it makes people lose control. He warns that it is a very physical form of love, which lasts but briefly and dissolves quickly because it is emotionally involved.

 

“Let me explain the three that you’re familiar with. Eros is when you see someone, he or she looks very attractive to you and you want to be with the person. This is what a lot of people think is love. This is what happens when a young man sees a girl and he wants to sleep with her. It is not love. Real love is commitment. Eros love is what produces unwanted children. Eros love is what you feel and can’t sleep at night and say you can’t stop thinking of a girl. When you begin to say oh I will do anything for you, I will give you anything you want, it is Eros in action. What we have been watching in movies; the ideas that have been sold to us that love is, it is Eros.”

 

 

 

“Philia is friendship. Many want Philia but they are not ready to move to it. It is Philia love when you get to meet a lady and tell her that oh, I love you and she says ‘let’s get to know each other, let’s do friendship’. There are some young men, especially those that are not born-again; if you’re a young lady and a young man is reaching out to you and saying ‘ ah, look at you, see how beautiful you are, I couldn’t hold myself’; stop him right there. You’re human and if you allow that thing to get into your system, you will flow along. Tell him, ‘don’t compliment me again, let’s avoid that conversation’. It should be good morning, good night. Those kinds of talks are nothing; no content, no depth. You don’t marry like that. There should be conversation outside the complement. Stop liking flattery, don’t be a flat tyre. If you invite a man to tell you nice things, you will always be a victim of life.”

 

 

 

 

“The nice things a man should tell you are things that would build your life. This is where many people have been trapped. They cannot go into friendship. You need friendship. You should have the conversation; how was your night, how was your day. This is what some people call a bestie. Bestie is purely friendship, there’s nothing attached. It is not even right if you’re in a relationship to have another person as a bestie. But because the guy; all he sees is Eros. This is why some girls will be in a relationship and will still be talking to other guys. Eros is all they are.”

 

 

“Women are emotional-oriented. Men are logical. So, the best kind of love is Agape; God’s kind of love. Those who are not born again start from Eros, they can never get to Agape. But those who are born again start from Agape, then they get to Philia and finally they get to Eros. Agape is God’s kind of love. He’s my brother, she’s my sister kind of love. You’re giving a girl money for her school fees is not because there’s something you want in return; it is not conditional; you’re giving her because she’s your sister in Christ. You’re paying her rent because she’s your sister in Christ. It is not an investment. So, you start from God’s kind of love, and if you want to have a relationship with her, you move to Philia love. And when you get married, obviously it will get to Eros. But if you allow Eros to control your feelings, you can never get to Agape.”

 

In conclusion, Apostle Suleman admonishes singles to be wary of physical attraction because it is not a necessary part of love. He says both Philia and Agape love are powerful, they are a spiritual kind of love, involving enormous empathy, with the concepts of charity and sacrifice within Agape in particular, making it the highest form of love for people in Christ.

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Decentralizing Policing in Nigeria: The Urgent Case for State-Controlled Law Enforcement

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Decentralizing Policing in Nigeria: The Urgent Case for State-Controlled Law Enforcement By George Omagbemi Sylvester | For Sahara Weekly NG

Decentralizing Policing in Nigeria: The Urgent Case for State-Controlled Law Enforcement

By George Omagbemi Sylvester | For Sahara Weekly NG

For decades, Nigeria has endured the consequences of an overstretched, inefficient and highly politicized central policing system. The result? Catastrophic. Rising insecurity, emboldened terrorists, banditry and unchecked violence have ravaged nearly every corner of the country. From the blood-soaked fields of Zamfara to the kidnapping corridors of the South-East and the cult-infested creeks of the Niger Delta, the evidence is irrefutable: centralized policing has failed Nigerians.

Despite its glaring dysfunction, the idea of devolving police powers to state governments remains one of Nigeria’s most controversial debates. Detractors argue that state police may be abused by governors as political thugs, but that’s a distraction from the real question: Do states in Nigeria currently have the financial and structural capacity to run police forces that are accountable, professional and effective; not as political weapons but as agents of justice and peace?

Central Policing: A Colonial Relic Turned Burden

The Nigeria Police Force (NPF), with about 370,000 officers serving over 220 million people, has one of the worst police-to-citizen ratios in the world. According to United Nations standards, a functional ratio is 1 officer to every 450 citizens. Nigeria languishes at roughly 1:600, and that’s before factoring in the lopsided deployment of personnel.

Shockingly, more than 40% of officers are assigned to VIP protection (guarding politicians, their families and business elites) while ordinary Nigerians are left defenceless against armed robbers, kidnappers and insurgents.

This structure is not accidental; it is a colonial legacy. As Professor Jibrin Ibrahim of the Centre for Democracy and Development aptly puts it:

“The Nigerian police are not trained to serve the people. They are trained to protect the state from the people.”

That mindset still dominates. The NPF remains a blunt, top-down instrument of coercion, not community safety. From the excesses of SARS to police complicity during elections, the central police system has consistently shown that it is out of touch and out of control.

The Case for State Policing: Security Must Be Local


Nigeria is a federation on paper but a unitary dictatorship in practice, especially regarding policing. With over 250 ethnic groups, multiple languages and complex regional dynamics, a one-size-fits-all federal police force cannot address the security needs of all states.

Countries like the United States, India, Canada and Germany, all federal in structure, operate decentralized policing models. In the U.S., over 90% of law enforcement is handled by state, county or municipal agencies and not Washington, D.C.

Nigeria has already seen states respond to security failures by creating regional outfits: Amotekun (South-West), Ebube Agu (South-East), Hisbah (North) and others. These are clear expressions of popular no-confidence votes in the federal police. But these outfits remain legally weak and operationally constrained without constitutional backing.

What Nigeria needs now is not just more vigilante groups but a legal and constitutional framework that allows states to form and manage professional, community-embedded police services.

Can States Afford State Police? The Numbers Don’t Lie


One of the most common arguments against state policing is financial incapacity. This argument is misleading and frankly, LAZY.

According to BudgIT and the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS):

Lagos State generates over ₦400 billion annually in Internally Generated Revenue (IGR) which is more than some African countries.

Rivers, Ogun, Delta and Kaduna States each generate over ₦50 billion annually.

25 states generate more than ₦10 billion annually.

So why do we say they “cannot afford” state policing? The issue isn’t capacity, it’s priority and accountability.

If states can build multi-billion-naira airports, mega flyovers and luxurious government houses, surely they can fund training, equipment and welfare for 5,000 to 10,000 well-trained state officers.

In 2024, the federal government allocated over ₦1.3 trillion to police and security services. Yet, most rural communities remain vulnerable. A fraction of that, used efficiently by states, can yield better results. Moreover, states could seek matching grants or partnerships with private and international donors to strengthen their security apparatus.

The Fear of Abuse: A Convenient Excuse
A major objection to state policing is the potential for abuse by state governors. But let’s be clear: the federal police are not immune to abuse. SARS was a federal outfit, yet it became synonymous with torture, extrajudicial killings and robbery.

During the 2023 general elections, federal police were accused of colluding with political parties to suppress opposition and disenfranchise voters. In Lagos, Rivers and Kano, shocking videos of police inaction and collaboration with thugs circulated widely.

The abuse argument is not an argument against decentralization; it is an argument for institutional reform.

A properly crafted State Police Act must include:

Independent oversight commissions

Auditable budgets and public transparency

Cross-border collaboration to prevent jurisdictional loopholes

Community-based recruitment

Strict human rights and use-of-force protocols

National benchmarks for training and ethics

The Federal Government’s role should evolve into providing technical support, forensic labs and inter-state crime coordination not micromanaging state security from Abuja.

Political Bottlenecks: The Elephant in the Room

Decentralizing Policing in Nigeria: The Urgent Case for State-Controlled Law Enforcement
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | For Sahara Weekly NG
Why, despite mounting evidence, has Nigeria failed to implement state policing?

Politics.

Centralized policing is a political weapon. Whoever controls the federal police controls elections, opposition suppression and even media narratives. That is why the ruling class is reluctant to devolve power.

In 2021, the National Assembly blocked key constitutional amendments that would have allowed states to establish their own police forces. Why? Because the party in power benefits from centralized force.

As Wole Soyinka warned:

“There’s no way we can continue along this unitarist line. It’s a logical contradiction. You can’t continue with this crude, centralist mindset and expect safety.”

State governors (especially in the South) must form a united front to lobby for this constitutional change. This will require sacrificing political capital, building coalitions across party lines and directly engaging the Nigerian public.

A National Crossroads: Reform or Ruin
Insecurity in Nigeria is no longer an abstract debate, it is an existential crisis. Farmers are abandoning fields. Children cannot go to school. Businesses are closing. Millions live under the daily threat of violence, extortion and death.

We must not allow political cowardice or elite selfishness to deny Nigerians the right to safety.

A decentralized police system is not a luxury; it is a necessity for national survival. Every state should have the constitutional authority, financial framework and legal support to secure its people.

It is time to break free from colonial chains and build a policing system that reflects our federal reality, respects our diversity and protects every Nigerian; rich, middle-class or poor, north, east or south, Muslim, Christian or Pagans.

The time for half-measures has passed.
The time to decentralize is now.

Decentralizing Policing in Nigeria: The Urgent Case for State-Controlled Law Enforcement
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | For Sahara Weekly NG

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Boko Haram: Olowu Reiterates Call to Support Nigerian Army

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Olowu of Kuta, HRM Oba Dr Hammed Makama Oyelude, CON, Tegbosun iii, has reiterated the call on Nigerians to support the Nigerian Army in the face of daunting security challenges and emerging new trend.

According to the statement issued by his media office in Kuta at the weekend, Oba Makama said the invasion of the country by various militias and mercenary has posed another threat to the national security.

Oba Makama, therefore, urged all and sundry, especially traditional rulers, to ensure that their domains are safe and secured from these hydra headed terrorists.

“As we all know that the Nigerian Army is responsible for the promotion and securing of our territorial integrity which is the symbol of our sovereignty, we must all rally round them to ensure they succeed in this onerous task.”

Waxing philosophical, Oba Makama said ” to keep Nigeria as a one is a task that must be achieved” failure of which it will remain an ill wind that blows nobody any good.

“It’s unthinkable that Pakistan nationals will be caught training the Boko Haram insurgency on how to attack the symbol of our sovereignty which is the Nigerian Army.

“They’ve also gone ahead to acquire weapons such as UAV ( drones) and latest military hardware to confront our army. We must ensure that all hands are on deck to defeat this deadly ‘monster’ before it’s too late,” the monarch added.

Kabiesi commend the COAS, Lt General Oluyede for prioritising troops welfare and leading from the front.

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Tayo Folorunsho Launches Universal Varsity TV Auditions to Discover Rising Student Stars in Abuja

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Tayo Folorunsho Launches Universal Varsity TV Auditions to Discover Rising Student Stars in Abuja

In a bold stride for youth-driven edutainment in Nigeria, media entrepreneur and education advocate Tayo Folorunsho has launched a groundbreaking talent audition at the University of Abuja. This initiative, aimed at discovering aspiring actors and content creators, is part of a larger project—the upcoming Campus Life Series—set to air on his newly licensed channel, Universal Varsity Television (UVT).

With an enthusiastic turnout of talented students, the audition kicked off what promises to be a transformative campus-focused web series. The Campus Life Series will weave together drama, education, and social commentary, offering an authentic portrayal of student experiences across Nigerian universities.

“We’ve seen incredible talent during the auditions,” said Folorunsho, founder and CEO of UVT. “These students will form the core cast of Campus Life Series, which will air on our new station.”

More than just entertainment, the series is designed as a platform to spotlight the real-life challenges, triumphs, and social issues faced by Nigerian students.

“This isn’t just about acting—it’s about impact,” Folorunsho explained. “We’re using storytelling to reflect campus realities, highlight systemic issues, and give young creatives a meaningful platform to express themselves.

 

Redefining Media and Education in Nigeria

Folorunsho’s vision is being hailed as a visionary fusion of advocacy and entertainment. By merging storytelling with student empowerment, he is cultivating a new wave of creators who are not only telling their stories but shaping national conversations.

Tayo Folorunsho Launches Universal Varsity TV Auditions to Discover Rising Student Stars in Abuja

The Campus Life Series is set to address pressing issues such as inadequate infrastructure, student welfare, academic pressure, and campus politics. Beyond the screen, the project offers hands-on media production experience, helping students build relevant skills that could propel them into careers in the creative industry.

With Universal Varsity Television, Tayo Folorunsho is not just launching a channel—he is launching a movement. One that champions youth voices, celebrates campus life, and redefines what it means to educate and entertain in Nigeria.

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