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The Dangers Of Allowing Your Spouse Live Abroad Alone
I have noticed that some men have been relocating their families abroad due to increased and increasing hardship and insecurity in Nigeria. It is important for them to also know the implications of such dangerous decision.
When I was appointed the managing director of the Orient Bank of Uganda in 2013, I couldn’t wait to return home to break the news to my wife.
The appointment, I reckoned would improve my earnings, career and was in line with my set objectives.
“That means that I’m resigning from my own job right away”, was my wife’s instant response to my announcement of the appointment.
She was not yet done. “The children will also go with us. I shall make enquires about good schools in Uganda to ensure that our children don’t lose a session”.
For my wife, she would not sacrifice her marital harmony for economic benefits or her career. She was a branch manager of a topmost bank in Nigeria.
I was shocked.
I pleaded, “please give me some time to go to Uganda, settle down, familiarize with the new country, say for one year and I shall come for you and the kids”.
I was talking to a statue. She wouldn’t take that.

My wife insisted that she and kids would join me within three months of my travel aside from the fact that she would accompany me on my first travel and return a week after.
I was not surprised at my wife’s philosophy of marriage and her belief in the pre-eminence of cohabitation of a married couple.
I initially deemed her stand too suffocating until I started looking around me, comparing notes, to see the effects of career or economic induced separation on marriages and family harmony.
The case of Mr. Oyiboka Akidi was very eye-opening.
Mr Akidi’s case is pathetic. He had relocated his family to Calgary in Canada in search of better life opportunities. He wanted his children to get better education and the wife to further her education and also work.
Akidi, an assistant general manager in a Nigerian bank, had saved and paid for the trip, initial accommodation and one year school fees for the kids. He also gave the wife some money to meet their needs pending when she secured a job.
The plan was that Akidi would travel to Canada once in a year during his annual vacation to visit his family.
Everything was going on fine until two years after when Akidi noticed that the wife was no longer looking forward to his calls or enthused by his announcement of the date of his visit to Canada.
He had asked his close friend to find out what was happening but the friend declined. The friend knew what was happening but would not want to be quoted. He would rather connect Akidi to a private detective who did a good job.
Mr. Akidi’s worst fear was confirmed when the paid agent sent him a dossier on how his wife rocked younger Nigerian men in Canada. He introduced the men to her kids as their distant uncles.
When confronted with the facts, Mrs Akidi filed for divorce. The children believed their mother and the rest is history.
In the calculations of a better life for his family, Mr. Akidi forgot to factor in the fact that Calgary is very cold and that excessive cold could trigger off certain needs like cuddling and sex. Hence, Mrs Akidi cannot be blamed alone. It was a joint decision that backfired.
So many men that left their families in Nigeria in search of Golden Fleece in the UK, USA and Canada have committed worse marital crimes. Theirs are even more heart-rendering.
The men, usually escorted to the airports’ departure halls by their loving wives and kids, would immediately re-marry upon arrival in their new countries in the name of route to citizenship. Many others have completely abandoned their wives and kids and had married more fascinating or updated women in their new places of residence. Some no longer pick calls from home.
Let nobody raise the issue of trust and infallibility of their spouses here, considering that Adam and Eve were manufactured by God himself with his own hands, still they failed.
Which man would be loved by God more than David still he was overwhelmed by the allure of Bathsheba?
Which man would be wiser than Solomon yet he was mesmerized by Queen of Sheeba?
As couples plan economic improvement or migration for a better life, they should factor in the fact that staying apart for too long could be dangerous. There could be a system failure.
A man or woman who lives in Lagos while his/her family lives in Enugu or Kano and who rarely visits home faces similar risks as those abroad.
I must reckon with the fact that some couples have exceptionally weathered the storm or successfully kept their secrets.
There is no doubt that staying apart creates a room for temptation or change of taste. While some people can hold on, many humans react positively to a seemingly better offer.
Only God knows how long and how far Adam was when the serpent arrived and had enough time to tempt and convince his wife to eat the fruit that changed not only their destinies but that of all human race.
Let no man fool himself. For any good husband, there is a better man out there and for any fantastic wife, there is a better woman somewhere. All it takes to get displaced as a husband or a wife is time and chance.
Therefore, let no spouse be too confident.
Stay or move with your family.
If you must move or let your family relocate, please don’t stay away for too long..
- Anayo M. Nwosu
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Mrs Township Finalist 2026 Leads Community Action to Support Disadvantaged Learners
Mrs Township Finalist 2026 Leads Community Action to Support Disadvantaged Learners
As the 2026 academic year begins, hope and compassion are taking root at Theresapark Primary School, thanks to the remarkable leadership of Mrs Nkone Maringa, a respected community member and Mrs Township South Africa Finalist 2026.
In a powerful demonstration of grassroots leadership and social responsibility, Mrs Maringa, in partnership with Theresapark Sasol Garage, spearheaded a community clean-up of the school’s garden area. The initiative was carried out in preparation for the school’s feeding scheme garden, which will support disadvantaged children with fresh, nutritious produce throughout the school year.
Planting Seeds of Change
The garden project goes beyond beautifying the school environment. It is designed to become a sustainable source of food for learners who rely on the school feeding programme as a vital lifeline. By preparing the land ahead of the school reopening, Mrs Maringa and her partners ensured that planting can begin immediately, setting the tone for a productive and caring 2026.
“This project is about dignity, nutrition, and giving our children a healthy start to the year,” the initiative reflects—aligning perfectly with Mrs Maringa’s long-standing commitment to community upliftment.
A Record of Community Impact
Mrs Nkone Maringa’s involvement at Theresapark Primary School is one of several impactful projects she has undertaken in her community. Known for her hands-on approach, she consistently mobilizes local businesses, volunteers, and stakeholders to address real needs—especially those affecting children, women, and vulnerable groups.
Her work embodies the core values of the Mrs Township South Africa platform: leadership, service, empowerment, and positive social change. As a finalist for the 2026 title, Mrs Maringa continues to prove that true leadership is measured not by titles alone, but by tangible impact on the ground.
Corporate–Community Partnership in Action
The collaboration with Theresapark Sasol Garage highlights the power of partnerships between local businesses and community leaders. Their support played a crucial role in making the clean-up initiative successful, demonstrating how corporate social responsibility can directly transform lives at a grassroots level.
Looking Ahead
With the garden now prepared, Theresapark Primary School is set to launch its feeding scheme garden as learners return for the new academic year. The project stands as a symbol of hope, resilience, and collective effort.
As Mrs Nkone Maringa continues her journey as a Mrs Township South Africa Finalist 2026, her work at Theresapark Primary School serves as a shining example of how passion, partnership, and purpose can create lasting change—one garden, one child, and one community at a time.
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Beauty with Responsibility: Lindie Motswaeng’s Vision as Miss Classic Queen International
Living Authentically, Leading with Purpose: Lindie Motswaeng
Lindie Motswaeng is a 28-year-old Mathematics and Economics graduate from one of Africa’s leading institutions, the University of Botswana. She is currently completing an Executive Secretary (Finance) qualification at Boston City Campus in Pretoria. A woman of depth and versatility, Lindie enjoys cooking, travelling, exploring new ideas, spending time with family, and commanding the stage. Outspoken, open-minded, and deeply curious, she lives by a simple yet powerful motto: to live life on her own terms, unconfined by limitations.
As an aspiring economist, Lindie is passionate about women’s economic empowerment, particularly for women facing abuse, and about raising awareness around mental health—an often-silenced issue in many communities. She envisions a future where individuals are free to thrive beyond cycles of abuse and mental health challenges. Recently crowned Miss Classic Queen International, she shares her journey, values, and vision for her reign.
Congratulations on your crowning. How does it feel to emerge as the new Miss Classic Queen International?
It honestly feels surreal. It is always amazing when your hard work and dedication are finally recognised. I truly believe this organisation is going to help me make a meaningful impact during my year of reign.
Can you take us back to the moment your name was announced as the winner? What went through your mind?
I was quite blank at first—I simply could not believe it in that moment. Shortly after, it turned into overwhelming joy, especially seeing people, including the other ladies, cheering me on. It was such a beautiful and affirming moment.
What does the title Miss Classic Queen International represent to you personally and culturally?
For me, it is about being an inspiration in my own authentic way. It is important to seek your own unique path. We are all different for a reason, and Classic Queen International embraces that diversity. More importantly, it highlights the beauty in our differences and uses them to open doors and create opportunities.
How has your journey in the pageant world shaped the woman you are today?
My pageant journey has taught me to appreciate my abilities and to use them responsibly to create change in my community. This is a role I believe every human being has. Most importantly, it has taught me the value of sisterhood. In every competition, you meet women from different walks of life who always have something to teach you. Although it is a competition, it is vital to remember that there is life after it. Someone you meet may become a destiny helper or a lifelong sister.
Beyond beauty and poise, what core values do you believe this crown stands for?
As beautiful as the crown is, it symbolises duty. With such a platform, it becomes possible to make an impact on a much larger scale. It is also important to remember that you do not always need a crown or title to do good or to champion a cause close to your heart. When you genuinely have a heart for people and a willingness to be a voice for others, the responsibilities of the crown do not feel heavy.
Many young women look up to you already. What message do you hope to pass on to girls who aspire to follow in your footsteps?
The journey is never easy. There will be moments of doubt and discouragement, but it is important to remember why you started. Having a teachable spirit is also key—you can learn incredible things when you are surrounded by different personalities. Lastly, comparison can be tempting in competitions, but it is important to focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Authenticity is essential; real growth cannot happen if you are constantly pretending to be someone else.
What were some of the biggest challenges you faced during the competition, and how did you overcome them?
I became ill on the second day, which is not ideal when activities require high energy and full dedication. Fortunately, I was part of an organisation that truly cares about its contestants. They ensured I received proper medical care and were very understanding. Maintaining a positive mindset also helped, because everything starts in the mind.
Pageantry today goes beyond glamour. What social cause or humanitarian project are you most passionate about championing during your reign?
I plan to continue my Art for Awareness project, which I started in 2021. The project uses art as a medium of communication and a form of release for people facing mental health challenges. In our culture, people are often silenced when they try to speak about their struggles, which causes them to withdraw. Art is universal and not age-specific, making it a powerful tool for expression.
How do you plan to use your platform as Miss Classic Queen International to create meaningful global impact?
I hope to expand my cause to other parts of Africa. This brand represents the continent, and with that comes the opportunity to partner with other organisations for wider reach and influence.
In your view, how can pageantry contribute to empowering women and promoting positive change in society?
We sometimes become too fixated on popularity and physical beauty, losing sight of what pageantry is meant to achieve. Beauty goes beyond the physical and is subjective. Women should be allowed to represent themselves authentically, without a single definition of beauty. We should also focus on developing their attributes, as these ultimately benefit society. A pageant queen has a voice and a platform, which requires humility, courage, and empathy.
Who or what inspired you most on your journey?
The love and support from my family, friends, and my country carried me throughout this journey. It truly takes a village. I was intentional when I started this path, knowing there would be challenges. When you set your mind and heart on something you are deeply passionate about, you will achieve it.
How do you balance confidence and humility while carrying such a prestigious international title?
I was raised with the principle of Botho, a core value in my country that embraces kindness, dignity, respect, and humility. When I stand on stage, I understand that I represent not only myself, but also my family and my nation. My character must reflect that. While humility is important, I should never shrink myself. As Nelson Mandela said, playing small does not serve the world.
What role do culture, elegance, and tradition play in the Classic Queen brand?
African culture plays a vital role in shaping character. This platform celebrates Africanism by allowing women from different African countries to showcase their cultures and talents on a continental stage. It fosters cultural exchange, promotes unity, and deepens understanding. Embracing our diversity as Africans allows us to see beauty instead of division. I learned so much from the other ladies—it was inspiring to see glamour fused with Africanism.
What should the public expect from you during your reign as Miss Classic Queen International?
I hope we can work together in championing this cause, because collaboration is essential. While I hold the title, greater impact can be achieved when we unite. I am grateful to be part of an organisation that supports and guides me throughout my reign to ensure we create positive change.
Finally, where do you see yourself after your reign, and how do you hope to be remembered?
I hope to be remembered as proof that anything is possible when you set your mind to it. I want to leave a legacy that inspires the next queen to do even more with the platform. Ultimately, I hope to help build a strong and enduring Classic Queen International family that extends beyond my reign.
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Facing the Fear of Aging: Embracing Life’s Final Frontier
Facing the Fear of Aging: Embracing Life’s Final Frontier.
By George Omagbemi Sylvester
Aging is an inevitable process, yet for many, it is accompanied by a profound fear; GERASCOPHOBIA. This fear transcends the mere passage of time; it encompasses anxieties about physical decline, loss of independence and the approach of mortality. In a society that often venerates youth and vitality, the elderly are frequently marginalized, their experiences undervalued. However, this perspective is not only detrimental to the elderly but also to society as a whole. Understanding and confronting the fear of aging is crucial for fostering a more inclusive and compassionate world.
The Roots of Aging Anxiety.
The fear of aging is deeply embedded in cultural narratives that equate youth with beauty, strength and productivity, while associating aging with decline and obsolescence. This dichotomy is perpetuated by media portrayals and societal attitudes that often overlook the wisdom and contributions of older individuals. Psychologically, aging anxiety can manifest as gerascophobia, a condition characterized by an excessive fear of growing older, leading to stress, depression and a diminished quality of life.
Research indicates that this fear is not merely a superficial concern but is linked to significant mental health issues. A study published in Psychology and Aging found that individuals with a negative perception of aging had a higher risk of developing depression and anxiety disorders. Moreover, the internalization of ageist stereotypes can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy, where individuals begin to embody the limitations they associate with aging.
Societal Implications of Aging Fear.
The societal implications of aging anxiety are profound. Ageism, the prejudice against individuals based on their age, often stems from and exacerbates these fears. This discrimination can result in older adults being excluded from the workforce, denied opportunities for personal growth and subjected to neglect and abuse. Such marginalization not only harms the elderly but also deprives society of their valuable experiences and insights.
In the workplace, ageism manifests in various forms, including biased hiring practices and limited advancement opportunities for older employees. This exclusion can lead to economic insecurity and social isolation among the elderly. Furthermore, the devaluation of older individuals’ contributions undermines the intergenerational exchange of knowledge and wisdom, weakening the social fabric.
The Psychological Toll.
The psychological toll of aging anxiety is significant. Individuals who fear aging may experience chronic stress, which can lead to physical health problems such as hypertension and cardiovascular disease. Additionally, the constant pressure to maintain a youthful appearance can result in low self-esteem and body image issues. These psychological challenges are compounded by the societal emphasis on youth, which can make older individuals feel invisible and irrelevant.
A study published in Psychology and Aging highlighted that individuals with a negative perception of aging had a higher risk of developing depression and anxiety disorders. This underscores the importance of addressing aging anxiety not only as a societal issue but also as a public health concern.
Challenging Ageist Narratives.
To confront the fear of aging, it is essential to challenge the ageist narratives that pervade society. This involves recognizing the value of older individuals and promoting positive representations of aging. Media portrayals should reflect the diversity and richness of older adults’ lives, showcasing their achievements and contributions. Educational programs can also play a role in dispelling myths about aging and fostering intergenerational understanding.
Furthermore, policies that support the elderly, such as accessible healthcare, retirement security and opportunities for lifelong learning, can help mitigate the negative impacts of aging anxiety. Creating environments that encourage social participation and civic engagement for older adults can enhance their sense of purpose and belonging.
Embracing the Wisdom of Age.
Despite the challenges, aging also brings opportunities for growth and fulfillment. Many individuals find that later life is a time of increased self-awareness, freedom from societal expectations and the ability to pursue passions and interests that were previously sidelined. As the saying goes, “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
Embracing the wisdom that comes with age can lead to a more meaningful and enriched life. Older individuals often possess a wealth of knowledge and experience that can benefit younger generations. By fostering an environment that values and respects the elderly, society can tap into this invaluable resource, promoting a more inclusive and harmonious community.
Final Thoughts.
The fear of aging is a complex issue that intertwines psychological, societal and cultural factors. Addressing this fear requires a multifaceted approach that includes challenging ageist stereotypes, promoting positive representations of aging and implementing policies that support the elderly. By confronting the fear of aging, society can create an environment where individuals of all ages are valued and respected, leading to a more inclusive and compassionate world.
As we move forward, it is imperative to recognize that aging is not a decline but a progression; a journey filled with potential for growth, learning and contribution. By embracing this perspective, we can transform the fear of aging into an appreciation for the richness and depth that each stage of life offers.
In the words of Katharine Esty, a psychologist and author of Eightysomethings: “We need not be afraid of our future selves. Aging can be an opening to decades of your life that you need not fear, ones that offer their own bounties to savor.”
Let us, therefore, approach aging not with fear, but with anticipation and respect, recognizing it as an integral and valuable part of the human experience.
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