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8 AmazingThings Couples Do Before Bed
Many people failed to realise that taking the time to reconnect with your partner at night can set a positive tone for the following day.
Your bed should be a place for sleeping, sex and conversation — not for scrolling mindlessly through your Instagram feed.
We live in a busy world and between work, kids, bills and other daily stressors, many couples struggle to find time to connect.
That’s why it’s so important for couples to make the most of whatever alone time they have together ― whether it’s an hour or just 10 minutes. We asked relationship experts to tell us what the happiest couples do before bed to keep their bond strong.
Here’s what they had to say below.
They exchange “I love yous.”: “Despite all the hassles of the day, the quirks and annoyances you experience from one another and ominous feelings about the day ahead, make the effort to let your partner know they are loved. And rather than just heave it out with your last sigh of the night, say it like you really feel it.” ― Ryan Howes, psychologist
They don’t try to settle arguments that aren’t easily resolvable: “It may not seem logical, but happy couples don’t actually settle disagreements before going to bed. We’ve all heard the adage, ‘do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,’ but it’s actually misunderstood. Trying to address heavy subjects, especially those you disagree on, at the end of the day when you’re both tired and short on patience is not smart. Too many couples make the mistake of starting fights at this time of day when they should be building connection ― not creating division.” ― Smith
They go to bed at the same time if possible: “Too many couples go to bed at different times, leading disconnected lives in the evening after already having spent all day apart. Happy couples, however, are intentional about coming back together at bedtime and reconnecting, if only for the few minutes of brushing teeth and getting under the covers. Going to bed together builds connection and provides opportunity for more intimate connecting.” ― Kurt Smith, therapist who specializes in counseling for men
They unplug from their phones and other devices: “We live in a wired world, and more often than not, this takes away from the time couples could spend connecting through dialogue, affection or intimacy. What’s more is that when your partner is on their phone, you feel like they’re not in the room and are somewhere else instead. In my therapy practice, couples who become aware of this intrusiveness sometimes create general rules such as ‘no phones past 9 p.m.’ or ‘no phones in the bed’ to counter such dopamine-inducing but oxytocin-suppressing social media habits. This can really set a couple up for feeling close throughout the entire next day.” ― Kari Carroll, couples therapist
They prioritize getting a good night’s sleep: “Although this isn’t very romantic, beyond the usual advice ― i.e. kiss goodnight, have sex, and say, ‘I love you’ ― getting a solid night’s sleep fosters good mental health, which in turn, makes people more emotionally available during the day. If sleep is hard to come by, get professional advice to develop good sleep habits.” ― Michele Weiner-Davis, therapist and author of Divorce Busting
They keep the kids out of the bedroom: “Your bedroom should be a sanctuary for the two of you. Although nightmares and illnesses might trigger children to climb into bed with you, in general, if intimacy and connection is your goal, encourage children to stay in their own rooms. Couples need privacy and boundaries to stay connected.” ― Weiner-Davis
They take a few minutes to practice gratitude: “Gratitude has been shown to have a wonderfully positive effect on mood and mindset, so why not share that together? Whether it’s something specific you appreciate about one another or a positive experience from the day, share something you’re thankful for to end the day on a bright note.” ― Howes
They set aside time to chat about the day and open up about their feelings: “The happiest couples regularly discuss the external stressors in their life and allow their partner to vent often. This doesn’t mean going into negativity overload all evening, but it does mean setting aside 15 to 30 minutes to unwind and lean into the relationship by showing support for the other relationships and experiences in your partner’s life. In my practice, I help couples listen to their partner’s stresses without feeling the need to take them on or problem-solve. Their partner tends to be appreciative of this opportunity and just feeling understood empowers them to be ready to tackle the next day’s stresses.” ― Carroll 
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Those who wronged you may never say “I’m sorry” – Prudent Ludidi
Ladies and gentlemen,
Today, I want to talk about something that can be difficult to accept, those who wronged you may never say “I’m sorry.”
We’ve all been hurt by someone at some point in our lives. And often, we hold onto that hurt, and hope in waiting for the person who wronged us to acknowledge their mistake and apologize.
But the truth is, that apology may never come.
It’s hard to accept because we feel like we deserve closure. We deserve to hear that the person who hurt us regrets their actions.
But closure is not something someone else gives you. Closure is something you give yourself.
You have the power to choose:
Choose to heal, even if they never acknowledge their wrongdoing
Choose to move forward, even if they never make amends
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. Forgiveness means releasing the hold that person has on you.
Forgiveness means taking back control of your life.
You don’t need someone else’s apology to move on. You don’t need someone else’s validation to heal.
You are strong enough to do it on your own.
And when you do, you’ll find peace. You’ll find freedom.
Remember, holding onto anger and resentment only hurts you. It doesn’t change the past.
But forgiveness can change your future.
So, don’t wait for someone else to say “I’m sorry.” Say it to yourself: “I’m sorry that happened to me, but I’m moving forward.”
Say it loud and clear: “I deserve to heal. I deserve to be happy.”
Take back your power. Take back your life.
Move forward with courage and faith.
You got this.
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