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An Open Letter Written to Linda Ikeji On Her Relationship Travails By Politican Maria Ude Nwachi

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Ebonyi House of Assembly Honourable Maria Ude Nwachi has written a long open letter to Africa’s most successful blogger Linda Ikeji on her relationship travails.

 

Maria was writing in response to Linda’s recent statement about the type of man she wants.

What she had written below:

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“Linda, you can’t have it both ways…..

I personally did a lot of damage control for Linda Ikeji when it was alleged she said; she can buy any man with her money. I sincerely did not believe she can utter such; as I could not imagine any reasonable human being saying such. I defended her with all my might. I Paid Facebook and Google to boost and promote the article I took my time to create, image-making style, in order to squash that allegation.

Remember, I do not know her in any shape. Never met her. Never spoken with her. I know her the same way millions do, via the fact that she is famous blogger. I Just did it from my heart; for I see her as a role model to women and youths. And I did not want such dent on her image.

Recently, power-blogger, Linda Ikeji, told an interviewer that she can never marry a poor man. Hear her: “No, I can’t marry a poor guy and I’m being honest about it. He doesn’t have to be rich but let him be successful in his own way. When I was 30, my standards were extremely high. Now, I have only three criteria. He must be successful. He must be a good man in the sense that he has to be very supportive of what I do. If he tries to stifle me, I’m out. The third one, is the one that likes to eat groceries well (laughs).”

On her latest statement, I do not agree with her at all. Firstly; a rich man is nothing but a poor man with money. And; no condition in life is ever permanent.

The scariest thing for a man to hear is not even the one of her saying she can’t marry a poor man, it is the one she says that she would be out if a man tries to stifle her. Then she better just create the man from scratch. Because there is no man, especially African man, that will not attempt to stifle his wife every now and then.

That innocuous utterance has already sent strong signals to those successful men she is seeking that they better go and marry someone that will not attempt to wear the trouser at home with them; and not her. It also indicates to those successful men she wants that she will never be submissive in anyway to them; that she no send and is ready for a divorce at any given time. She is basically preempting divorce even before marriage.

Dear Linda, you can’t have it both ways. You can’t eat your cake and have it too. Being a very successful woman in Nigeria, you must be willing to compromise when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. You might not be a girl, due to your high level, a man can tell what to do or what not to do, but you must not say such out loud, you must give vibes that you can be told what to do by your man, you must do your best to show them the utmost respect, the most respect you can muster to give them. You are going to have to eat humble pies for your man many a times. And it is okay my darling, it will take nothing away from you. Let the man to feel he is in control. You must try and do that. It is not an option, it is necessary.

By your success alone, you have made many men feel a bit less manly, and so to even rub it in by reading them riot acts to them, is an overkill. Humility is a natural gift, those who are humble by nature will remain humble even if they become the richest on earth. But humility can be learned too, in dealing with the opposite sex you will need a mighty doze of humility, nnem, learn it if by force biko. Always remember that a man is a man is man is a man. Respect matter to a man; no matter his status and class.

 

The major reason men, especially African men are working hard to be successful is so they can get that woman they want, that will give them a peaceful home, and the leeway to be the oga of the house. Why would a man go through it all to make it only to marry a woman who is going to become the man of the house with him.

Important: A man is a man, poor or rich. No man with his head in intact, will be okay for a woman to control him.

Even if the woman is richer than money itself. It will not happen. Even the poorest man on earth would rather be eating his Indomie in peace than to be controlled by any woman. This applies even in the civilized world. This not about pride, this is human nature.

On money: Being rich, poor or broke is not a permanent state of being. Moreover; money is not the be all and end all of life. Some people are very rich today not just by hard work but by force of universe which can also be interpreted as grace. Let us not dismiss people based on their current condition. Moreover, he only thing constant in life is change.

Hear Linda, “I keep telling people. It’s not that men are scarce. They are not scarce. The type of men that some of us are looking for are scarce. If I want to get married next week, I can. I want a man that I can look up to. Somebody that inspires me, somebody that will push me, motivate me; somebody who has had some success in his own career. I’m inspired by successful people. I can’t wait to meet someone like Tyler Perry.”

Now let us talk about the definition of success. According to her, she wants to marry a successful man, but the man does not have to be rich. This is a huge oxymoron (an epigrammatic effect, by which contradictory terms are used in conjunction). Success is defined as; the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. And it does not take a genius to understand that by successful, she means a wealthy man. A man of means. Going by the example she gives as her kind of man, Tyler Perry, she has dropped all the hint any one needs to know concerning her idea of a successful man. Perry is an ultra-rich American actor, comedian, producer, director, screenwriter, playwright, author, and songwriter.

The problem i see with Linda is that she is often too open about her feelings. I will advise that in her search for a man that she should keep some of her criterias private. This is not America, this is not oyibo land where women can say and do anything with minimal or no consequence. Emotional intelligence is knowing your environment and adapting to it; especially when it comes to utterances, actions etc. It is not everything the heart conceives that must be uttered publicly.

Linda, in the end you will have the last laugh, when you are running around with your cute kids doing one or two things and your hubby by your side. When you are compromising and eating them humble pies, think of your family (your own kid/s and man) and it will all be worth it.

By virtue of you being a very successful woman, African woman for that matter, no matter who you marry, it is not going to be easy. But if you do your math properly, do some adjustments and amendments, you won’t have any regrets. Life as we know it is not a bed of roses for anyone, if you have this, you might not have that, so it’s all about compromise and middle-ground.

You are a very public figure. Your public utterances must be guided. By virtue of your rag to riches success story; you have become an involuntary role model to many; including me. You are intelligent but you need to take a class on emotional intelligence. Be very mindful of your public statements please. I wish you more success in life. Thank you.
Sincerely yours,

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Crossover Program : Famous Gospel Acts Joe Praise, Gozie Okeke, Gabriel Peters Billed to Thrills Faithful at Prophetic Conference.

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…. Chris Okafor world outreach Ministry set to takes Evangelism to US

 

 

Grace Nation Global Annual flagship conference the Midyear Cross over conference with the Theme “Breaking forth to the other side” is set to hold between Thursday 27th-30th June 2024. The family Liberation event is slated to take place at the international Headquarters of the church situated in Ojodu Berger Lagos Nigeria.

Popular Gospel Acts, Joe Praise, Gozie Okeke and Son of the Prophet Gabriel Peters are billed to thrill faithfuls with Prophetic Praise and Worship Songs to prepare Participants for Greater blessings from Elohim.

According to the Set Man, Popularly known as The Generational Prophet of God Dr Chris Okafor, the Prophetic conference will serve as an avenue to take the children of God to the other side of the year with evidential Proof in there life.

Dr Chris Okafor said this year edition with witness Prophecy, Healing Deliverance, Restoration, Miracles and Solutions to all kinds of Problems faced by the child of God.

The conference will Begins on Thursday 27th June 2024 by 7am -12noon, while on Friday will be night of Prophecy and Solution, it will be by 9pm till.all breakthrough.

The Prophetic conference will be rounded up with a special thanksgiving service on Sunday 30th June 2024, where GOd will use his servant the Generational Prophet of God to cross his children to the other side of Breakthrough.

In his Sermon on Sunday 23rd June 2024 with Topic, “The Law of the mirror” The Lead Pastor Grace Nation Global Dr Chris Okafor said you must see value in yourself to get value of yourself, the Man of God said the worst thing in life is not to value yourself, when you speak negative of yourself the host of heaven confirmed your statement.

The Man of God also reiterated that self esteem is the single most important thing to a person behavior, therefore stop comparing yourself to others if you want to go far in life.

In his remarks the Generational Prophet of God said Negative thinking is critical to our self esteem,most time what we takes or believes in always comes from our ups and downs therefore the way your present yourself the way the world will Address you.

It was a Mind blowing Miracles and Deliverance at the service as a child born with the issue of deaf, received supernatural hand of God, his ears were open as God Servant prayed for him. He was able to hear for the first time in is life

Also God used his servant to re unite a family at the edge of breakout, the Man of God prayed and the relationship at the edge of collapsed re united, moreso evil family altars that does not allowed marriage were destroyed and all the Lawful captives were set Free to the Glory of God.

Meanwhile the Chris Okafor world outreach Ministry COWOM is set to take Evangelism to the United States of America starting from the first week of July 2024.
We will bring details of the conference to all our readers in our subsequent Publication….

 

 

Crossover Program : Famous Gospel Acts Joe Praise, Gozie Okeke, Gabriel Peters Billed to Thrills Faithful at Prophetic Conference.

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Kano Court Ruling: It Is Sanusi’s Destiny Not To Be Emir Again – Professor Mefor

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Kano Court Ruling: It Is Sanusi’s Destiny Not To Be Emir Again – Professor Mefor

 

 

Professor Law Mefor, a renowned political analyst, says Justice Abdullahi Liman’s landmark ruling annulling the reinstatement of Sanusi Lamido as Emir of Kano suggests his fate is not tied to the throne.

Mefor, in an interview on Arise TV, said Governor Abba Yusuf’s assent to the amended Kano Emirate law and Sanusi’s reinstatement defied a court order, demonstrating disregard for the rule of law.

 

Kano Court Ruling: It Is Sanusi's Destiny Not To Be Emir Again - Professor Mefor

According to him, Sanusi’s initial dethroning was a consequence of his actions, which contravened traditional and legal norms.

He, therefore, said the court’s overturning of all actions taken after the amended law was passed, including Sanusi’s appointment, has sealed his fate.

“The judge ruled for a return to status quo, and the interpretation is clear; go back to where the matter was before it came before me,” Professor Mefor said.

“The status of the Kano Emirate before the matter was brought before the court was Emir Ado Bayero in charge.”

He added: “Some of us were not happy that Sanusi went to become the Emir of Kano, knowing fully well that he was an asset to the nation.

“He is an activist and intellect who offers more at the national level. He’s not supposed to handle a subdued role where he cannot express himself. His reinstatement is very controversial”.

The governor’s action, according to Professor Mefor, “was only trying to fulfil his campaign promises, but this should have been done by following the due process of the law. Why the rush? Follow the law.”

He emphasised that “to go ahead to reinstate him against a subsisting order is an invitation to anarchy, knowing the volatility of Kano. History has repeated itself.”

Professor Mefor stressed that “we must allow the rule of law to take its course. Sanusi’s destiny lies elsewhere, and Kano State can now move forward in peace.”

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UK richest family jailed

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Sadly, the richest family in Uk is in a mess. A Swiss court handed jail sentences to four members of Britain’s richest family on Friday for exploiting Indian staff at their Geneva mansion.

 

UK richest family jailed

The Hindujas — who were not present in court — were acquitted of human trafficking, but convicted on other charges in a stunning verdict for the family whose fortune is estimated at 37 billion pounds ($47 billion).

 

 

Prakash Hinduja and his wife Kamal Hinduja each got four years and six months, while their son Ajay and his wife Namrata received four-year terms, the presiding judge in Geneva ruled.

 

 

The cases stem from the family’s practice of bringing servants from their native India and included accusations of confiscating their passports once they were flown to Switzerland.

 

 

Prosecutors argued the Hindujas paid their staff a pittance and gave them little freedom to leave the house.

The family denied the allegations, claiming the prosecutors wanted to “do in the Hindujas”.

The Hindujas reached a confidential out-of-court settlement with the three employees who made the accusations against them.

 

 

Despite this, the prosecution decided to pursue the case due to the gravity of the charges.

Geneva prosecutor Yves Bertossa had requested a custodial sentence of five and a half years against Prakash and Kamal Hinduja.

Aged 78 and 75 respectively, both had been absent since the start of the trial for health reasons.

In his closing address, the prosecutor accused the family of abusing the “asymmetrical situation” between powerful employer and vulnerable employee to save money.

Household staff were paid a salary between 220 and 400 francs ($250-450) a month, far below what they could expect to earn in Switzerland.

 

 

“They’re profiting from the misery of the world,” Bertossa told the court.

– ‘Not mistreated slaves’ –

 

But the Hinduja family’s defence lawyers argued that the three plaintiffs received ample benefits, were not kept in isolation and were free to leave the villa.

“We are not dealing with mistreated slaves,” Nicolas Jeandin told the court.

Indeed, the employees “were grateful to the Hindujas for offering them a better life”, his fellow lawyer Robert Assael argued.

Representing Ajay Hinduja, lawyer Yael Hayat had slammed the “excessive” indictment, arguing the trial should be a question of “justice, not social justice”.

Namrata Hinduja’s lawyer Romain Jordan also pleaded for acquittal, claiming the prosecutors were aiming to make an example of the family.

He argued the prosecution had failed to mention payments made to staff on top of their cash salaries.

“No employee was cheated out of his or her salary,” Assael added.

 

Some staff even asked for raises, which they received.

With interests in oil and gas, banking and healthcare, the Hinduja Group is present in 38 countries and employs around 200,000 people.

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