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7 Reasons Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK
7 Reasons Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK
Nigerian Marriages always appear solid and formidable until the union gets a visa. The moment it passes through the UK Point of Entry, it starts to develop cracks until it takes more falls than the Naira under the current Tinubu administration. In this piece, I will be taking a dive into the common reasons why Nigerian marriages struggle on UK soil.
(1). Personal Vendetta:
Marriage as an institution in Nigeria is modeled around patriarchy – a system of male dominance. In this case, the man is the king while the woman is the queen. As you know, the king dominates the queen, and nothing he does is wrong in most cases (especially for the wealthy men). The woman could be forced to endure physical, verbal, psychological, financial abuse, and lots more. She stands to get mocked if her marriage crashes. This creates age-long bitterness and a cold war in the union. Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive. The moment the marriage transits to a society that gives women an upper hand against men, they come for their pound of flesh like Shylock. This destroys the foundation and subsequently brings it to an end.
(2). Level Playing field:
Marriage in Nigeria is a bit lopsided in terms of the professional profiles of the couples. In some cases, the husband might be a doctor while the wife might be selling beauty products or other petty items that cannot sustain her financially. The man steps in, and this gives him an undue edge in the marriage. In the UK where a hard-working bartender can match a nurse financially, and there is a level playing ground, power changes hands. The man who might be an alpha male loses that edge. This kind of equality – an unfamiliar territory for the man, if not well-managed might be the collapse of the marriage.
(3). Cultural Issues:
In the UK, the difference between a man and a woman might be that one menstruates and the other doesn’t. In fact, people switch genders according to their moods. In simple terms, there is no duty/responsibility that is totally exclusive to a man or woman. Over here, men go to the market, clean, wash, cook, babysit, run errands, and also fund the home. Local champions who are used to being served like emperors by their wives might struggle to cope with the new environment and could feel short-changed.
(4). Busy Schedules:
It is no longer news that the cost of living in the UK is as high as a COVID-19 patient’s temperature. In my previous articles, I have overemphasized how people inevitably work for long hours in order to cope with rising living expenses and financial demands from their families back home. This might affect bonding between young couples and reduce intimacy. Most times, when one party is ready for a “mid-section parley”, the other might be unavailable due to conflicting shift patterns, not being in the mood due to mental or physical stress. This gradually takes a negative toll on the marriage.
(5). Women Are Powerful Abroad:
In the West, there are checks to prevent the domination of women by men. This has made women so powerful. In the event of a conflict, the odds are always against the men. The Spanish FA chief, Luis Rubiales learned the hard way for controversially kissing midfielder, Jennifer Hermoso at the recently concluded 2023 Women’s World Cup. Also in February 2021, Yoshiro Mori – head of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games Organising Committee, was coerced into resigning after saying ‘women talk too much in meetings’. Former Manchester United player, Mason Greenwood apparently ruined his career due to struggles with his partner. In marriage, some women mischievously abuse their powers. A colleague lost his marriage of 5 years after his wife reportedly abused him physically multiple times. A behaviour that was never evident in Nigeria according to him.
(6). Cheating:
A randy man who is obsessed with beautiful women would easily make mistakes in the UK. The UK exposes you to numerous women of different shapes, forms, and beauty. If you think you have seen it all, you need to see the Jamaican, Somalian, Pakistani, Iranian, curvy Kenyans, and some pretty Indian women. It is not just how they look alone but what they are wearing. Some of them might fancy you and might be willing to hand you the cookie on a platter of gold. There are also several single mothers who have nothing to lose. They are ready to ‘share it’ graciously like the Federal Government palliatives across their community. One person’s husband might be hooked to the detriment of his marriage.
(7). Finances:
Another area of challenge in a UK home is money. In an informal survey I personally conducted, I realized it is the most common problem around. It is extremely difficult for a man to singlehandedly foot the household bills in the UK. Paying for everything is easily obtainable in Nigeria where the cost of living is lower. A woman who is used to the Nigerian system might be hoarding cash, and under-declaring her finances. This is done to force the man to fill the vacuum. This creates discontentment, and over time, frustration starts to hit the man. He might be tempted to seek solace outside the marriage to boost his mental health.
Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist. He writes from the South Yorkshire region of England.
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Police Deploy Extra Security To JAMB Centres, Dismiss Rumours Of Threats
Police Deploy Extra Security To JAMB Centres, Dismiss Rumours Of Threats
The Nigeria Police Force has deployed additional security personnel to examination centres nationwide ahead of the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB) examinations scheduled to begin on April 16, 2026, while dismissing recent rumours of safety threats at certain centres in a North Central state as “unfounded” and “without basis.”
In a statement issued on Tuesday, the Force acknowledged public concerns regarding the safety of candidates but emphasised that it does not act on unverified information. Nevertheless, the police said the concerns had been noted, particularly as they relate to the education and future of young Nigerians.
“Extra security has been deployed at examination centres nationwide, both overtly and covertly, to prevent any untoward incidents,” the Force Public Relations Officer, DCP Anthony Okon Placid, said in the statement. Measures include routine patrols, perimeter checks, and rapid response teams stationed at strategic locations.
The police said they are collaborating closely with other security agencies to monitor and address potential threats effectively, warning that any individual or group attempting to disrupt the examination process will be swiftly identified and prosecuted.
Candidates have been encouraged to arrive early at their centres, adhere to examination regulations, and report any suspicious activities or persons to on-site security personnel. The public was advised to disregard unverified information circulating on social media and to rely solely on official updates from JAMB and the Nigeria Police Force.
“The Force remains committed to maintaining peace, security, and public confidence in all national activities, including the JAMB examinations,” the statement added.
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Manipulation of Military Operations to Suit Political Permutations; Nigerian Military Operations in Jilli, as a case study
Manipulation of Military Operations to Suit Political Permutations; Nigerian Military Operations in Jilli, as a case study.
By Comrade Oladimeji Odeyemi.
It must be stated clearly and without any apology: the continuous attempt by some political actors to manipulate or reinterpret military operations for political advantage is reckless, dangerous, and unacceptable. The Armed Forces of Nigeria are not an extension of political ambition, nor are they instruments to be twisted to fit changing political permutations.
Our military personnel, especially the personnel of the Nigerian Army are on the frontlines, risking—and in many cases losing—their lives to defend the nation. To politicise their sacrifices is not only disrespectful, it is an insult to the very idea of national service. Those who choose to score political points from matters of security should understand that they are undermining the morale, focus, and effectiveness of the very institutions safeguarding this country.
Recent developments further expose how dangerous and misleading these narratives can be. In a circulating video, a captured Boko Haram member, one Tijani openly affirmed that insurgents frequently congregate at the Jilli Axis—an area that was recently targeted and bombed by the Nigerian military. He went to further affirmed that they mobilised from Jilli to carry out the attack on Benisheikh, which led to the tragic loss of our gallant Officers and Men. This revelation directly contradicts the politicised claims suggesting indiscriminate action or targeted victimisation. It instead reinforces the reality that military operations are intelligence-driven and aimed at dismantling terrorist strongholds.
Equally intolerable is the growing habit of dragging ethnic or tribal sentiments into matters of national security. This must stop. Security threats do not discriminate, and neither should our national response. Any attempt to twist counter-terrorism efforts into ethnic or sectional narratives is not only dishonest but dangerously divisive.
Furthermore, the reckless labeling of security operations as “witch-hunts” without credible evidence is a deliberate attempt to discredit institutions and confuse the public. Such narratives are not harmless—they weaken trust, embolden criminal elements, and place additional strain on already overstretched security personnel.
Those pushing such claims must be prepared to take responsibility for the consequences.
Let it be a warning: the continued politicisation of security issues will not only deepen national insecurity but will also be remembered as a betrayal of public trust. Politicians must draw a clear line between legitimate oversight and destructive interference. The former strengthens democracy; the latter endangers lives.
Our security agencies must be allowed to operate without intimidation, manipulation, or political distortion. Anything less is a direct compromise of national safety.
It is the government responsibility to provide security, especially in a Country like Nigeria, where citizens are not allowed to own the kind of weapons that terrorists and often criminals carry, government must protect the citizens.
In conclusion, the lives of citizens are not bargaining chips for political games. They are sacred. Any individual or group that chooses to exploit insecurity for political gain must understand that they are playing a dangerous game—one that history will judge harshly.
Comrade Oladimeji Odeyemi an entrepreneur, a security analyst and an opinion moulder sent this article from Ibadan, Oyo State.
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Monday Okpebholo Rebuilds POWA Market, Disburses ₦200 Million to Fire Victims
*Monday Okpebholo Rebuilds POWA Market, Disburses ₦200 Million to Fire Victims*
A major recovery effort has been completed for traders affected by the recent fire outbreak at POWA Market, as Edo State Governor Monday Okpebholo announced the rebuilding of the market and the disbursement of financial support to victims.
Speaking during the official presentation, Okpebholo revealed that a total of ₦200 million had been distributed to affected traders, with each shop owner receiving ₦8 million to help restart their businesses. The intervention comes just days after the governor pledged swift action following the devastating fire incident that disrupted livelihoods in the community.
“A few days ago, I made a promise to the traders affected by the POWA Market fire in Ekpoma. Today, I have fulfilled that promise,” Okpebholo said. “We have rebuilt the market, and I personally presented the cheques to each of the affected traders as we disbursed ₦200 million in support, with every shop owner receiving ₦8 million to help them restart their businesses.”
He acknowledged the hardship caused by the disaster, emphasizing that the initiative was not only about economic recovery but also restoring dignity and hope among victims.
“I understand the pain and disruption this incident caused, and this intervention is about restoring not just livelihoods, but hope and dignity,” he added.
The governor framed the effort as part of his administration’s broader commitment to responsive governance and people-centered policies. “This is what governance means to me, standing with our people and taking real action when it matters most,” he said, assuring residents that further support initiatives would follow.
Okpebholo concluded on a note of optimism about the state’s future, declaring, “We will continue to do more to support our people and put smiles on the faces of Edo families. A New Edo has risen.”
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