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When Comfort Becomes Complicity: The Hidden Violence of Neutrality. (How moral grandstanding silences empathy and what to do about it)
When Comfort Becomes Complicity: The Hidden Violence of Neutrality. (How moral grandstanding silences empathy and what to do about it)
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published on SaharaWeeklyNG.com
“Sometimes when you are not the victim you turn to be a priest.” The line is brutal in its honesty. It names a human reflex we would rather deny: WHEN PAIN IS NOT OURS, WE OFTEN SERMONIZE INSTEAD OF SYMPATHIZE. We reach for tidy morality plays, not messy solidarity. We become judges in robes we stitched for ourselves; confident, distant and wrong.
This essay argues that the priestly posture (moralizing from a safe distance) does real harm. Philosophy, history and behavioral science converge on one simple fact: NEUTRALITY and MORAL GRANDSTANDING in the face of suffering enable injustice. To resist that drift, we must choose courage over commentary, action over applause and responsibility over rhetorical righteousness.
The Priestly Reflex and Its Consequences.
It is tempting to stand safely on the pavement describing the flames rather than grabbing water. Archbishop Desmond Tutu warned against this pose: “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” That’s not rhetoric; it is diagnosis. Neutrality is not a vacuum, but a shelter for the powerful.
Sociology and psychology explain how we slide into the PRIESTS PULPIT. After the 1964 murder of Kitty Genovese in New YORK (long mythologized as “38 witnesses doing nothing”) scholars Bibb Latané and John Darley designed experiments (1968–1970) that established the bystander effect: As the number of onlookers grows, the likelihood of help falls. We diffuse responsibility, assume someone else will act and talk ourselves into spiritual aloofness: “This is not my place.” The original Genovese reporting was later shown to be exaggerated in parts, but the experiments remain robust: diffusion of responsibility is real and deadly. When we are not the victim, the mind reaches for distance and the distance breeds sermons.
Philosopher Hannah Arendt offered a chilling lens: the “BANALITY of EVIL.” Much evil, she argued, is not spawned by theatrical villains but by ordinary people who outsource moral judgment to convention and bureaucracy. “The sad truth,” Arendt wrote, “is that most evil is done by people who never make up their minds to be good or evil.” The priestly reflex is precisely this quiet abdication an appearance of moral clarity that hides moral laziness.
In political life, the cost is stark. Martin Luther King Jr. warned, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” The phrase is not a slogan; it is a systems insight. When we treat others’ suffering as a stage on which to display our virtue, we do not disrupt the system; we stabilize it. We offer commentary instead of consequences.
Moral Grandstanding: The Sermon as Performance.
Modern ethics has a name for the priestly reflex: moral grandstanding. Philosophers Justin Tosi and Brandon Warmke define it as using moral talk to impress others and elevate one’s status. It is the public square’s glittering homily, designed not to help the victim but to burnish the speaker. The result is predictable: OUTRAGE INFLATION, PERFORMATIVE PURITY TESTS and a CROWD that talks over those who are actually harmed.
Psychology adds more traps. Moral licensing whispers, “You’ve posted, protested or donated once, now you’ve done enough.” Empathy gap research shows our concern shrinks with distance, difference and politics. Paul Bloom, in AGAINST EMPATHY, cautions that unexamined empathy can be biased; he recommends compassion guided by reason. The point is not to feel less but to act more intelligently: to pair warm HEARTS with cool HEADS.
Economists Ernst Fehr and Simon Gächter showed that communities flourish when members are willing to bear a cost to punish WRONGDOING, even as uninvolved third parties. This “ALTRUISTIC PUNISHMENT” knits social order by signaling that injustice will meet resistance. In other words: the antidote to the priestly pose is accountable action, not decorative outrage.
Philosophy’s Demands: From Spectatorship to Stewardship.
Long before social media, Adam Smith described the “impartial spectator,” an inner witness that checks our ego and urges justice. Properly formed, this spectator does not excuse indifference; it rebukes it. Peter Singer sharpened the edge: “If it is in our power to prevent something very bad from happening, without thereby sacrificing anything morally significant, we ought to do it.” The drowning child in Singer’s famous thought experiment is not a metaphor to admire, but a command to act.
Edmund Burke is often misquoted, but his verified counsel is tougher and truer: “WHEN BAD MEN COMBINE, the GOOD must ASSOCIATE; else they will FALL one by one.” The instruction is collective. Association (organized, disciplined, sustained) is the opposite of priestly posturing. It is solidarity operationalized.
How the Priest Shows Up Today.
Victim-blaming in public discourse: We search for the victim’s mistake to absolve ourselves. Did they dress wrongly, protest poorly, speak too loudly? The “PRIEST” asks how the hurting invited their hurt.
Policy debates as morality theater: We score points; THE POOR PAY COSTS. When food, housing or migration becomes a backdrop for brand-building, real families become scenery.
Neutrality masquerading as professionalism: Institutions hide behind “PROCESS” while harm compounds. Procedure without courage is ritual; priestly incense masking the stench of neglect.
What To Do Instead: A Brief Ethics of ANTI-PRIESTHOOD.
Move first, MORALIZE LATER. When harm is clear, action precedes analysis. Call the ambulance, secure the scene, offer the seat, share the meal, transfer the funds, sign the affidavit. Discuss theory after the danger has passed.
Center those harmed. “Nothing about us without us” is more than a slogan; it is a safeguard. Design responses with, NOT FOR, the people affected.
Invest where it hurts (aA LITTLE). If help costs nothing, it usually changes nothing. TIME, MONEY, RISK and REPUTATION are CURRENCIES of real SOLIDARITY.
Build associational power. Burke was right: ORGANIZE. JOIN UNIONS, CIVIC GROUPS, NEIGHBORHOOD WATCHES, LEGAL DEFENSE FUNDS, FAITH COMMUNITIES. Lone priests deliver sermons; communities deliver outcomes.
Measure outcomes, not applause. Swap “DID I SOUND RIGHTEOUS?” for “Did we reduce suffering? Did we increase safety, freedom and dignity?”
Choose principled dissent over fashionable outrage. King again: courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. When your coalition is wrong, say so. When the headline is misleading, correct it; especially if it flatters your side.
Practice disciplined compassion. Bloom’s caution matters: PAIR FEELING with FACT. Target aid where it works; test programs; correct course. COMPASSION without COMPETENCE exhausts.
The Civic Stakes.
History is merciless to spectators. Societies do not collapse in a single dramatic act; they erode by a thousand small abdications: someone else will speak; someone else will vote; someone else will resist. The priestly reflex institutionalizes those abdications. It trains a generation to curate moral identities rather than carry moral burdens.
We can do better. The first step is to retire the pulpit we drag everywhere. The second is to recover the oldest civic technology human beings possess: showing up. Aristotle wrote that we become just by doing just acts. Not by liking just posts or issuing just statements; but by DOING.
A Final Word to the “Priest” in All of Us.
You and I are not exempt. We are all, at times, the safe commentator, the tasteful neutral, the careful non-participant. Let us give that figure a new liturgy”: When a NEIGHBOR SUFFERS, show up.
When a stranger is targeted, STAND NEAR.
When a rule shields cruelty, BREAK the SILENCE and sometimes the RULE.
When your comfort depends on someone else’s risk, TRADE your COMFORT.
The work is not glamorous. It will not feel like a sermon. It will look like grocery runs, witness statements, donated hours, early votes, shared platforms and hard conversations with your own allies. It will feel small; until it doesn’t.
The line we began with remains our warning and our way out: SOMETIMES WHEN YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM YOU TURN to be a PRIEST. The task is to turn, instead, into a neighbor. Let the record show that in our time the bystanders learned to MOVE, the neutral learned to CHOOSE and the preachers without practice learned to put their hands to the FIRE.
~ George Omagbemi Sylvester
STILL ON DELE MOMODU by Chief Femi Fani-Kayode
I saw Dele Momodu’s response to my article on him & was amused.
I tried to be polite & restrained in that write up & I didn’t realise that it would hurt him so deeply. Yet for that I offer no apology.
I said he sounded tired & worne in his interview with Seun Okinbaloye but from his response today it is clear that he is now completely unhinged.
He has blown his gasket & his reaction is rooted more in emotion than it is in logic.
Frankly I feel sorry for him because it is clear that he is fighting a lost cause, he is badly diminished & he is now a shadow of his former self.
For Bobby Dee the glory days are certainly over & I suspect that by 2027 when Tinubu emerges victorious he will crawl back into the hole that he originally came from.
Perhaps at that time he will go back to taking pictures of former Governor Nyesom Wike, the Adeleke’s & other prominent figures for a living & shining their shoes.
Playing clips of things that I said about President Tinubu 11 years ago when I was in the then opposition & when I led the media section of President Jonathan’s presidential campaign organisation will not help him to get rid of the stench of faeces that he has immersed himself in today & neither does it derogate from the fact that he was speaking rubbish when he said Tinubu is a dictator.
Unlike others I will never deny what I have said in the past about Tinubu or anyone else but at least I had the decency & courage to admit that I was wrong & ever since I left the then opposition and joined the APC in 2021 I have not looked back.
Not only did I fight for Tinubu in 2023 during the presidential campaign but I have remained loyal & committed to him & his cause since then and I have no apology for that either.
Unlike Dele I did not benefit from him for close to 40 years, eat from his plate, collect handouts from him, stay in his house, claim to be his brother and yet refuse to support him in achieving his dream of becoming President.
Bobby Dee’s nose is so far up the posterior of those he is now slaving for that he forgot to mention the fact that every single one of them, at some point or the other in their sorry lives & career, have not only changed political parties several times over but have also opposed Tinubu bitterly & even more vehemently than I ever did only to go back & later re-align with him.
I do not begrudge them or blame them for that because that is the nature of politics all over the world.
There are no permanent friends or enemies but only permanent interests and in my view it is in the interest of Nigeria that Tinubu continues the reforms that he started in 2023 after he was elected President.
It is also my view that Nigeria must never fall into the hands of the conglomeration of court jesters, sorry clowns & motely crew of insufferable jokers that Dele is now speaking, slaving & fronting for.
I will still be gentle with my old friend because I have a soft spot for him but if he ever crosses the line with me again I will stop being so restrained.
He does not have the stomach for a real fight because he is vain and thin-skinned. He also has an over- inflated opinion of himself and a huge ego.
These are weaknesses in this game and not strengths and as we get closer to the presidential campaign he will learn this the hard way.
Meanwhile he should stay in his lane otherwise I will give him plenty to write about.
For him to compare Tinubu to Abacha was wrong and if he was anything like the dictator that Dele claims he is both Dele and those he speaks for today would either be dead or in jail.
He should count himself lucky that our President is a democrat and not a monster.
Dele’s lies, duplicity & shameless perfidy have finally been exposed & are as obvious & glaring as his very large stomach.
I advise him to do some press ups & go jogging because unlike before I will no longer remain silent as he & his friends throw mud at our President.
Game on!
(FFK)
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OWUTU FM 2026 Ramadan Lecture: Sheikh Jamiu Asanbe Urges Muslims to Avoid Showboating in Worship
OWUTU FM 2026 Ramadan Lecture: Sheikh Jamiu Asanbe Urges Muslims to Avoid Showboating in Worship.
The Chief Imam of Agelete Central Mosque, Ikoyi Lagos, Alhaji Jamiu Asanbe, has urged Muslims to remain sincere in their acts of worship and avoid the temptation of seeking public praise for good deeds.
The respected Islamic scholar gave this admonition while delivering a lecture at the OWUTU FM 2026 Ramadan Lecture, held on Saturday, February 28, 2026, in Lagos.
Speaking on the importance of sincerity in Islam, Sheikh Asanbe cautioned Muslim faithful against what he described as “showboating” — the practice of performing charitable acts or religious duties merely to gain recognition or admiration from others.
According to him, every act of worship in Islam must be done purely for the sake of Almighty Allah.
He explained that while acts such as prayer, fasting, and charity are fundamental pillars of faith, their true value lies in the intention behind them.
The cleric therefore encouraged Muslims to remain genuine in their devotion and avoid mixing their faith with the desire for worldly praise or attention.
Sheikh Asanbe also reminded the faithful that the holy month of Ramadan presents a unique opportunity for spiritual renewal. He urged believers to increase acts of generosity, particularly by supporting the needy, vulnerable members of society, and orphans.
Earlier in her remarks, the Convener of the Ramadan Lecture and CEO of OWUTU FM, Hajia Adejoke Muyibat Balogun, encouraged attendees to use the sacred month as a time for reflection, self-improvement, and community development.
She described the lecture theme as carefully selected to promote spirituality, strengthen faith, and encourage peaceful coexistence within the community.
Balogun expressed appreciation to the numerous guests and supporters who attended the event, noting that their presence reflected the strong bond within the community.
She further reaffirmed OWUTU FM’s commitment to sustaining the annual Ramadan Lecture, praying for Allah’s continued guidance and mercy in the years ahead.
The 2026 edition of the Ramadan Lecture attracted dignitaries and representatives from various organisations including Uzamot Communications, Okutex Fabrics, and the Yeye Asiwaju of Ojota Kingdom.
The event also featured engaging activities such as a quiz competition, where winners were presented with gifts. In the spirit of Ramadan, iftar meals were shared with guests, reinforcing the values of unity, generosity, and compassion that define the holy month.
Through initiatives like this, OWUTU FM continues to play a vital role in promoting faith-based dialogue, community engagement, and social harmony.
Tinubu Abroad, Nigeria in Chaos: The Spectacle of Elite Excess
By George Omagbemi Sylvester
“Government officials queue to bid him farewell as he departs, only to rush ahead and line up again to welcome him at his destination; a stark display of misaligned priorities in Nigerian leadership.”
Wednesday, March18, 2026
In a spectacle that has plunged Nigeria’s political class into fresh ignominy, a long line of federal ministers, governors, senators and political hangers‑on queued outside a London hotel this week to welcome President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, GCFR upon his arrival in the United Kingdom for a two‑day state visit.
Not only did these government officials send off Mr. Tinubu as he departed Nigeria (a ritual in itself excessive given the scale of pressing national crises) they rushed ahead to London to line the halls of his hotel, applauding and greeting him like conquering heroes arriving on foreign shores. This is how Nigeria’s elites now comport themselves while millions of citizens endure ever‑deepening hardship.
A Travesty of Priorities
Tinubu’s visit to the UK, hosted by King Charles III and Queen Camilla, is officially billed as an effort to deepen trade relations, attract investment and strengthen bilateral cooperation between Britain and Africa’s most populous nation. While those diplomatic objectives in theory could benefit Nigeria, the optics of an entire political class fawning over a president abroad are unbearably grim against the backdrop of domestic suffering.
According to recent economic analysis, despite macroeconomic adjustments such as ending fuel subsidies and floating the naira, more than 60% of Nigerians still live in poverty and daily hardships are rampant. Security remains a grave concern with violence and banditry destabilising large swathes of the country. Instead of addressing these crises with urgency, Nigeria’s leadership appears fascinated with photo‑ops overseas.
“A System of Self‑Centred Elites”
Critics within Nigeria have not minced words. Political observers describe the spectacle as a display of self‑centred politics divorced from the realities facing ordinary citizens. One observer on social platforms summed up the broader sentiment: “Tinubu represents a system of self‑centred elites (elite consensus over popular will) and this is exactly the performative politics that lines like these embody.”
Dr. Godfrey Mwakikagile, a respected African scholar on post‑colonial governance, has long warned that bad leadership and lack of accountability are Africa’s greatest challenges. “Power in many African states is too centralised and concentrated in the hands of elites who use it to perpetuate themselves at the expense of the public good,” Mwakikagile recently argued; a critique that resonates all the more when ministers fly abroad not to pursue tangible policy but to line up like admirers.
The Cost of Foreign Pageantry
This isn’t the first time Tinubu’s foreign engagements have attracted scrutiny. His administration’s frequent travels (often with large entourages) have drawn criticism for prioritising optics over outcomes, especially when Nigeria’s economy contracts and its people struggle with food inflation and insecurity.
Former presidential candidate Peter Obi has been among the most vocal domestic critics of these priorities, noting that Tinubu’s extensive foreign travel (including to the UK) distracts from urgent national needs and has become a “matter of grave concern.” Obi insists that such actions reveal a leadership more interested in global visibility than domestic wellbeing.
Nigeria Jagajaga!
The phrase “Nigeria jagajaga” (loosely translated as Nigeria being in disarray) has never felt more apt. A nation where ministers greet presidents in plush foreign suites while citizens queue for food and services is a country deeply out of balance.
Instead of being welcomed like dignitaries abroad, ministers and governors should be at home addressing the root causes of Nigeria’s struggles: insecurity that displaces communities and kills livelihoods, an economy that leaves the majority impoverished despite reforms, and the persistent failings of governance that erode public trust.
What Nigerians Deserve
President Tinubu and his entourage should be judged not by the number of ministers who lined up to greet him in London, but by the lives changed back in Nigeria.
As scholars like Mwakikagile and critics like Obi remind us, political leadership must be accountable and grounded in service, not spectacle. Nigeria’s leaders owe the people more than applause at international hotels; they owe them safety, economic opportunity, and genuine progress.
If this nation is ever to break free from the cycle of “jagajaga,” then those in power must demonstrate sincerity, not pageantry; action, not admiration. The lines outside a London hotel are not a testament to leadership; they are a testament to where Nigeria’s priorities have tragically come to rest.
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