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I Better Pass My Neighbour: The Toxic Superiority Complex Destroying the Nigerian Social Fabric
I Better Pass My Neighbour: The Toxic Superiority Complex Destroying the Nigerian Social Fabric.
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com
In Nigeria, the societal obsession with “I better pass my neighbour” is no longer just a joke tied to a noisy portable generator. It has become a deeply entrenched cultural mindset, festering across economic classes and bleeding into every corner of our interactions. From the university campus to the corridors of political power and even in the dusty streets of Ajegunle or the polished parlours of Ikoyi, this mentality thrives; silently yet destructively.
The average Nigerian isn’t interested in community progress as much as they are obsessed with individual advancement; not for survival, but for status. Status, in this context, doesn’t mean achievement through merit; it means appearing to be doing better than the next man. In a country where poverty, unemployment and insecurity are rife, many Nigerians have resorted to comparison as a means of self-validation. And what’s more tragic? This mindset has become generational.
A Society Obsessed with Appearances, Not Substance
The infamous phrase “I better pass my neighbour,” associated with a low-cost power generator, wasn’t just a brand gimmick; it was a mirror of Nigerian society. We laugh at it, but its popularity reflects the larger societal mindset: as long as I’m better off than you, I’m winning. No concern for collective good. No solidarity. No empathy. Just one goal ~ to appear more successful, even if it means going into debt, lying or oppressing others.
A few months ago, shortly after President Bola Ahmed Tinubu assumed office, a popular slogan emerged from many Nigerians: “ _This government will favour me and my family_.” That single statement, echoed in countless WhatsApp groups and street corners, revealed a chilling truth: _we no longer care about national good; all that matters is personal gain._
How can a country grow when its citizens only think in terms of “ _me and mine_”? How do we demand accountability when the average voter supports looters simply because they belong to the same tribe, party or religion?
Classism in Everyday Life
Let’s not deceive ourselves; Nigerians are deeply classist. We respect people based on their financial worth or material possessions. You can be wise, moral or kind, but in Nigeria, if you don’t drive a flashy car or have a prestigious job title, YOU’RE NOT RESPECTED. This toxic culture plays out in the smallest things, like when someone insists on walking you to the gate after a visit. Not out of hospitality, but to PEEP at your CAR and MEASURE your STATUS.
A wealthy man gets away with fraud and we say, “ _At least he helps people_.” A poor man commits the same crime, and he’s crucified. HYPOCRISY wears a Nigerian jersey.
Even among peers, standards are selectively enforced. A person from a lower socio-economic background is mocked for speaking poor English or dressing modestly. But if the same mistake is made by a rich person or someone of similar social standing, we look the other way.
The Uber Example: Misplaced Arrogance
Consider a 25-year-old lady, fresh out of NYSC, who hasn’t held a proper job, yet she sits in an Uber and speaks down at the driver like he’s trash. Why? Because society has taught her that being a passenger puts her above the driver (never mind that he’s probably more hardworking and better educated. In another setting, where social roles are reversed, say she’s on foot and he’s in a private car) she would suddenly find her manners.
As Chinua Achebe once said, ” _The trouble with Nigeria is simply and squarely a failure of leadership._” But one might add, it’s also a failure of character, widespread across the citizenry. Leadership doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it reflects the people. The leader is often the loudest echo of the society that produced him.
Cultural Hypocrisy and the Nigerian Middle Class
The middle class (supposedly the moral compass of any democratic society) is no better. Rather than pushing for reforms, they engage in ostentatious displays of wealth, from social media brags to naming their kids after luxury cars. They rent expensive outfits for weddings, borrow money to fund birthdays and are obsessed with outshining their friends. Conversations in many Nigerian homes are filled with phrases like:
_“My friend just bought a Benz.”_
_“Why is your cousin still living in that area?”_
_“We can’t send our kids to that school; it’s for poor people.”_
Meanwhile, these same individuals will remain silent on governance failures, injustice or even inflation as long as they can still afford _SUYA,_ _DSTV_ and _WEEKEND DRINKS._
A Nation Divided by Petty Competition
This unhealthy rivalry isn’t limited to the elite or the educated. From the mechanic in Ibadan to the petty trader in Aba, everyone is competing, often against invisible enemies. Instead of lifting one another, we ridicule. Instead of mentoring, we mock. Nigerians build fences taller than their houses not just for security, but to hide what’s going on inside. It’s not just about being safe, it’s about being mysterious and envied.
According to a report by the World Inequality Database, Nigeria is one of the most unequal societies on earth, with the top 1% earning disproportionately more than the bottom 50%. Yet, even within the bottom 50%, the quest to “ _APPEAR BETTER_ ” persists, a sign that our value system is not just broken but dangerously inverted.
How Did We Get Here?
Post-colonial Nigeria inherited a distorted social structure, but what we’ve done with it is far worse. Decades of bad governance, corruption and social instability have made many Nigerians see survival as a game of one-upmanship. The social contract has broken down. Nobody trusts the system, so everyone looks out for themselves, even at the expense of others.
As Fela Kuti famously sang, “ _Suffer, suffer for world… enjoyment for heaven_!” Nigerians have been told to endure, aspire and dream (but the dreams are no longer about dignity or justice. They’re about owning iPhones, buying plots in Banana Island and being invited to exclusive weddings. The average man no longer dreams of a better Nigeria) he dreams of escaping it or at least looking like he already has.
The Way Forward: Reorienting Our Value System
It’s time we had difficult conversations. WHAT KIND OF SOCIETY DO WE WANT TO BUILD? DO WE WANT A NIGERIA WHERE SELF-WORTH IS MEASURED BY HOW MANY PEOPLE WE’RE BETTER THAN, OR ONE WHERE WE LIFT EACH OTHER UP?
As former Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan once said, “ _If you don’t value education, you will be ruled by ignorance._” Similarly, if we don’t value humility, empathy and collective progress, we will continue to be ruled by greed, classism and moral emptiness.
This is a call for social introspection. Let’s teach our children that drivers, cleaners and artisans are not beneath them. Let’s celebrate hard work over handouts, values over valuables. Let’s walk each other to the gate not to assess, but to appreciate. Let us normalize treating everyone with dignity not because of what they own, but because they are human.
Until then, _“I better pass my neighbour”_ will remain more than a noisy generator. It will continue to be the anthem of a decaying society.
Published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com
Written by George Omagbemi Sylvester
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Customs, NDLEA Intercept N16.7bn Cannabis Shipment at Tin Can Port
Customs, NDLEA Intercept N16.7bn Cannabis Shipment at Tin Can Port
By Ifeoma Ikem
The Nigeria Customs Service, Tin Can Island Port Command, has intercepted a major consignment of illicit drugs valued at N16.7 billion at the Lagos Port Complex, in what authorities described as a significant breakthrough in Nigeria’s ongoing anti-smuggling operations.
The seizure, which occurred barely two weeks after a similar interception, involved 4,173.5 kilograms of Cannabis Indica concealed in 8,347 packages and packed inside a 40-foot container.
Speaking during a media briefing in Lagos, the Customs Area Controller of Tin Can Island Port Command, Comptroller Frank Onyeka, said the operation was carried out through intelligence sharing and strategic collaboration between the Nigeria Customs Service and the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency.
Onyeka explained that officers of the command’s Enforcement Unit intercepted the container marked HAMU 247034/8 after receiving credible intelligence reports from relevant security agencies.
He said the container was immediately flagged for detailed physical examination upon arrival at Tin Can Island Port.
According to him, the container originated from Canada and was discovered to contain large quantities of Cannabis Indica hidden among cargo items.
He disclosed that the illicit substance weighed 4,173.5 kilograms and carried an estimated street value of N16.694 billion.
The Customs boss said the interception highlights the increasing use of maritime trade routes by international criminal syndicates seeking to penetrate Nigeria’s market with illegal substances.
He noted that such criminal activities pose serious risks to national security, public health and economic productivity, particularly among young Nigerians.
Onyeka stated that the command would continue to strengthen surveillance systems, improve cargo profiling and enhance intelligence gathering to safeguard Nigeria’s ports.
He also warned that port insiders and other individuals aiding smuggling activities would be identified and prosecuted in accordance with the law.
The Comptroller commended the Comptroller-General of Customs, Bashir Adewale Adeniyi, for promoting inter-agency cooperation in anti-smuggling operations.
Receiving the seized consignment on behalf of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency, Director of Seaport Operations, ACGN Ibinabo Archie Abia, described the seizure as a major disruption of transnational drug trafficking networks.
She revealed that the operation followed months of surveillance and international intelligence collaboration involving Homeland Security Investigations, the United States Drug Enforcement Administration and the Royal Canadian Mounted Police.
Abia added that the latest interception, alongside previous seizures of 4,729 kilograms on April 27 and 610.5 kilograms on April 30, reflects growing efficiency in intelligence-driven enforcement operations aimed at protecting Nigeria’s maritime trade environment.
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Menopause Is Not the End – It is a Critical Transition Hidden Behind Silence and Stigma
*Menopause Is Not the End – It is a Critical Transition Hidden Behind Silence and Stigma*
– *Dr Nelson Aluya MD, MBBS*
Menopause is universal, inevitable, and often misunderstood.
It is not merely the end of menstruation; it is one of the most consequential biological transitions in a woman’s life. The danger of menopause does not lie in the transition itself, but in how poorly it is understood, recognized, and treated—by societies, healthcare systems, and often by women themselves.
Women constitute approximately 49.6–49.7% of the global population, amounting to over 4 billion women worldwide as of 2024–2025. Although slightly more boys are born than girls—about 106 boys for every 100 girls—higher male mortality means women increasingly outnumber men in older age groups. Globally, the sex ratio evens out to nearly 50/50, with women dominating later decades of life (United Nations; World Bank; INED). And every woman who lives long enough will experience menopause.
Menopause is defined as 12 consecutive months without a menstrual period, typically occurring between ages 45 and 55, with an average age of 51–52. Today, over one billion women globally are experiencing perimenopause, menopause, or postmenopause. In the United States alone, 1.3 to 2 million women enter menopause annually, roughly 6,000 women every day. As populations age and life expectancy increases, this number will continue to rise.
Yet despite affecting nearly half of humanity and 100% of women who reach midlife, menopause remains one of the most neglected and poorly integrated areas of modern meLimitations?
*A Critical Biological Turning Point:*
Menopause represents a sharp decline in estrogen and progesterone—hormones that influence far more than reproduction. Estrogen plays a protective role in cardiovascular health, bone density, brain function, metabolic regulation, and emotional stability. When estrogen levels fall, risk rises.
This is why menopause is increasingly recognized as a critical health inflection point, not a benign milestone.
*Cardiovascular Disease: The Greatest Threat:*
Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death in women worldwide, surpassing all cancers combined. Before menopause, estrogen confers relative cardiovascular protection. After menopause, that protection rapidly diminishes.
Research shows that the menopausal transition is associated with: Worsening lipid profiles Increased insulin resistance
Central weight gain
Vascular stiffness and endothelial dysfunction
Collectively, these changes double the risk of heart disease compared with premenopausal women.
Compounding this risk is misdiagnosis. Women experiencing myocardial infarction often do not present with classic symptoms such as crushing chest pain or dramatic shortness of breath. Instead, they may report fatigue, nausea, heartburn, dizziness, jaw or shoulder pain—symptoms frequently dismissed as anxiety, stress, or “menopausal complaints.”
The consequences are stark. Studies show that women aged 45–64 have higher mortality following a first heart attack than men of the same age. One-year mortality rates approach 23% in women versus 18% in men, and within five years, 47% of women die, develop heart failure, or suffer a stroke compared with 36% of men.
“Menopause does not cause heart disease.
Ignorance of menopause does.”
*Mental Health, Depression, and Suicide Risk:*
Menopause is also a period of heightened psychological vulnerability. Fluctuating and declining estrogen affects neurotransmitters such as serotonin and dopamine, increasing susceptibility to major depression, anxiety, irritability, and emotional dysregulation.
*This risk is not theoretical:* Epidemiological data indicate that women are more likely to die by suicide between the ages of 45 and 49, coinciding with the late perimenopausal and early menopausal years. While suicide is multifactorial, menopause represents a biological and psychosocial stressor that intersects with caregiving burdens, career pressures, aging awareness, and sleep deprivation.
“o dismiss these symptoms as “normal” is to trivialize a period of genuine risk.”
*Cognitive Decline and Neurological Vulnerability:*
Emerging evidence suggests that estrogen plays a role in maintaining synaptic health and cerebral blood flow. The menopausal transition has been associated with brain fog, memory lapses, and reduced processing speed, symptoms frequently minimized or ignored.
Women account for nearly two-thirds of Alzheimer’s disease cases worldwide. While causality remains under investigation, declining estrogen during menopause is increasingly viewed as a potential contributor to long-term neurological vulnerability, particularly when combined with cardiovascular risk factors.
*Bone Loss and Physical Frailty:*
Bone density declines precipitously after menopause. Without estrogen, women experience accelerated bone resorption, placing them at high risk for osteoporosis and fractures. Nearly half of a woman’s lifetime bone loss occurs during the menopausal years.
Hip fractures, in particular, are associated with loss of independence, chronic disability, and increased mortality—yet bone health screening and prevention remain underutilized.
*The Burden of Symptoms—and Silence:* Hot flashes, night sweats, sleep disruption, fatigue, vaginal dryness, reduced libido, and cognitive changes are not trivial inconveniences. Moderate-to-severe vasomotor symptoms peak in the first two years after menopause and can persist for a decade or longer.
Despite this, menopause remains dramatically under-treated. Many women are told to endure symptoms without explanation or support. This silence has consequences—not only for individual health, but for families and communities.
*Menopause and the Social Fabric:*
Menopause often coincides with peak life stress: caring for aging parents, supporting adolescent or adult children, managing career demands, and confronting aging itself. The cumulative effect can strain relationships.
Surveys suggest that up to 70% of women report menopause as a contributing factor to marital breakdown, citing increased conflict, reduced intimacy, and emotional distress. Divorce rates among adults over 50—so-called “gray divorce”—have risen dramatically in recent decades, with menopause frequently acting as an unrecognized catalyst.
When menopause is misunderstood, women are blamed for biological changes they cannot control.
A Shift Toward Evidence and Empowerment
Menopause is not a disease, but it demands medical respect.
Lifestyle interventions—regular physical activity, balanced nutrition, smoking cessation, reduced alcohol use—remain foundational. Medical care is equally vital: cardiovascular screening, bone density assessment, mental health support, and treatment of genitourinary symptoms.
Hormone therapy, long stigmatized, is undergoing reevaluation. In November 2025, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration initiated the removal of outdated “black box” warnings from most hormone replacement therapies, acknowledging that prior risk assessments were based on misinterpreted data. Current evidence indicates that for women under 60 or within 10 years of menopause, hormone therapy can reduce cardiovascular risk, fractures, and possibly dementia when appropriately prescribed.
Legislative efforts, such as the New Jersey Menopause Coverage Act, reflect growing recognition that menopause care is not optional—it is essential healthcare.
Beyond Survival: The Postmenopausal Years
For many women, life after menopause brings increased confidence, clarity, and freedom—a phase sometimes described as postmenopausal zest. But reaching that stage safely requires awareness, education, and systemic change.
Conclusion
Menopause is not a footnote in women’s health.
It is a defining chapter.
Ignoring it places billions of women at unnecessary risk—of heart disease, depression, cognitive decline, fractured families, and preventable death.
“Menopause does not weaken women.
Silence does.”
Recognizing menopause as a critical health transition is not only a medical obligation—it is a moral one.
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NSCDC Busts Syndicate Vandalizing Railway Tracks, NNPC Pipelines; 12 Suspects Arrested
NSCDC Busts Syndicate Vandalizing Railway Tracks, NNPC Pipelines; 12 Suspects Arrested
The Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) has dismantled a syndicate involved in the vandalism, theft and recycling of critical national infrastructure, including railway tracks, NNPC pipelines and water board installations, with no fewer than 12 suspects arrested. The National Public Relations Officer of the corps, ACC Babawale Afolabi, disclosed this during a briefing on Wednesday in Kaduna. Afolabi, represented by the Deputy Public Relations Officer, SC Terzungwe Orndiir, said the operation followed a viral video showing massive vandalisation of newly laid Kaduna-Kano rail tracks and existing railway infrastructure in the northern part of the country. He said the Commandant General of the corps, Ahmed Abubakar Audi, directed the CG’s Special Intelligence Squad (SIS) and the Kaduna State Command to identify and apprehend those behind the act.
According to Afolabi, the breakthrough was achieved through intelligence-led operations supervised by the Commander of the CG’s SIS, Commandant Apollos Dandaura, in collaboration with the Kaduna State Command. He said operatives on May 12 dismantled what he described as an international and local syndicate operating under a sophisticated criminal cover. The suspects allegedly used the premises of Inner Galaxy Steel Company at Birnin Yero in Igabi Local Government Area of Kaduna State as a front for their activities. According to the NSCDC spokesperson, the company allegedly compressed vandalised railway materials into scrap at its Kaduna facility before transporting them to Aba, Abia State, where they were melted and recycled into nails and iron rods. Afolabi said this criminal cycle had caused the Federal Government monumental economic losses, adding that the suspects allegedly conspired with vandals to purchase stolen railway tracks, slippers, NNPC pipes and water board infrastructure.
The NSCDC spokesman said seven suspects had been arrested in connection with the case, identifying them as Usman Hassan, company manager; Bilyaminu Usman, weighbridge operator; Choji Pam, weighbridge officer; Jamilu Jaafar, scrap collector; Chukwuemeka Udonwoke, supervisor; Chikwodilli Ezema, company manager; and Isaac Etim, scrap leader. According to him, the suspects are being processed for criminal conspiracy, unlawful possession of vandalised property and receiving stolen property. He listed items recovered from the scene to include large quantities of vandalised railway tracks and slippers, suspected NNPC and water board pipes, as well as specialised machinery allegedly used for compressing and concealing stolen infrastructure.
Afolabi further disclosed that the CG’s SIS and Kaduna State Command also arrested five suspects over alleged vandalism of rail tracks along the Kaduna-Abuja corridor at Gwagwada community in Chikun Local Government Area. He said exhibits recovered from them included railway tracks, slippers and gas cylinders allegedly used in destroying the infrastructure. The NSCDC spokesman quoted the Commandant General as commending the CG’s SIS and Kaduna State Command for their gallantry and professionalism. He said the corps was concerned that registered companies were allegedly acting as saboteurs, adding, “Under this leadership, the NSCDC will not treat economic sabotage with kid gloves. We are going after the sponsors. This operation marks the beginning of a new phase in our crackdown on syndicates supporting vandalism under any disguise.” Afolabi thanked members of the public for providing intelligence through social media and urged continued collaboration with security agencies.
Also speaking, the Managing Director of the Nigerian Railway Corporation (NRC), Dr Kayode Opeifa, commended the NSCDC for recovering large quantities of railway materials allegedly vandalised and concealed in Kaduna State. Opeifa, represented by the Chief Technical Officer (Track), Zaria, Mr Paul Doche, said the NRC team was invited by the NSCDC to identify railway materials recovered during the intelligence-led operation. He said the recovered items included heaps of railway sleepers and rail tracks allegedly hidden beneath scrap metal debris, adding, “We have gone round and identified some of our materials there. These are national assets.” Doche praised the NSCDC for what he described as a successful intelligence-driven operation. He noted, however, that it would be difficult to immediately quantify the recovered materials because many of the railway components were buried under heaps of metal scraps. “Before we can quantify, we have to remove all the debris and count the materials one after the other,” he said. Doche reiterated that the Nigerian Railway Corporation had zero tolerance for vandalism and destruction of railway infrastructure. According to him, the matter would be handed back to the NSCDC for further investigation and prosecution of those involved in accordance with the law.
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