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I Better Pass My Neighbour: The Toxic Superiority Complex Destroying the Nigerian Social Fabric

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I Better Pass My Neighbour: The Toxic Superiority Complex Destroying the Nigerian Social Fabric.

By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com

 

In Nigeria, the societal obsession with “I better pass my neighbour” is no longer just a joke tied to a noisy portable generator. It has become a deeply entrenched cultural mindset, festering across economic classes and bleeding into every corner of our interactions. From the university campus to the corridors of political power and even in the dusty streets of Ajegunle or the polished parlours of Ikoyi, this mentality thrives; silently yet destructively.

The average Nigerian isn’t interested in community progress as much as they are obsessed with individual advancement; not for survival, but for status. Status, in this context, doesn’t mean achievement through merit; it means appearing to be doing better than the next man. In a country where poverty, unemployment and insecurity are rife, many Nigerians have resorted to comparison as a means of self-validation. And what’s more tragic? This mindset has become generational.

A Society Obsessed with Appearances, Not Substance
The infamous phrase “I better pass my neighbour,” associated with a low-cost power generator, wasn’t just a brand gimmick; it was a mirror of Nigerian society. We laugh at it, but its popularity reflects the larger societal mindset: as long as I’m better off than you, I’m winning. No concern for collective good. No solidarity. No empathy. Just one goal ~ to appear more successful, even if it means going into debt, lying or oppressing others.

A few months ago, shortly after President Bola Ahmed Tinubu assumed office, a popular slogan emerged from many Nigerians: “ _This government will favour me and my family_.” That single statement, echoed in countless WhatsApp groups and street corners, revealed a chilling truth: _we no longer care about national good; all that matters is personal gain._

How can a country grow when its citizens only think in terms of “ _me and mine_”? How do we demand accountability when the average voter supports looters simply because they belong to the same tribe, party or religion?

Classism in Everyday Life
Let’s not deceive ourselves; Nigerians are deeply classist. We respect people based on their financial worth or material possessions. You can be wise, moral or kind, but in Nigeria, if you don’t drive a flashy car or have a prestigious job title, YOU’RE NOT RESPECTED. This toxic culture plays out in the smallest things, like when someone insists on walking you to the gate after a visit. Not out of hospitality, but to PEEP at your CAR and MEASURE your STATUS.

A wealthy man gets away with fraud and we say, “ _At least he helps people_.” A poor man commits the same crime, and he’s crucified. HYPOCRISY wears a Nigerian jersey.

Even among peers, standards are selectively enforced. A person from a lower socio-economic background is mocked for speaking poor English or dressing modestly. But if the same mistake is made by a rich person or someone of similar social standing, we look the other way.

The Uber Example: Misplaced Arrogance
Consider a 25-year-old lady, fresh out of NYSC, who hasn’t held a proper job, yet she sits in an Uber and speaks down at the driver like he’s trash. Why? Because society has taught her that being a passenger puts her above the driver (never mind that he’s probably more hardworking and better educated. In another setting, where social roles are reversed, say she’s on foot and he’s in a private car) she would suddenly find her manners.

As Chinua Achebe once said, ” _The trouble with Nigeria is simply and squarely a failure of leadership._” But one might add, it’s also a failure of character, widespread across the citizenry. Leadership doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it reflects the people. The leader is often the loudest echo of the society that produced him.

Cultural Hypocrisy and the Nigerian Middle Class
The middle class (supposedly the moral compass of any democratic society) is no better. Rather than pushing for reforms, they engage in ostentatious displays of wealth, from social media brags to naming their kids after luxury cars. They rent expensive outfits for weddings, borrow money to fund birthdays and are obsessed with outshining their friends. Conversations in many Nigerian homes are filled with phrases like:

_“My friend just bought a Benz.”_

_“Why is your cousin still living in that area?”_

_“We can’t send our kids to that school; it’s for poor people.”_

Meanwhile, these same individuals will remain silent on governance failures, injustice or even inflation as long as they can still afford _SUYA,_ _DSTV_ and _WEEKEND DRINKS._

A Nation Divided by Petty Competition
This unhealthy rivalry isn’t limited to the elite or the educated. From the mechanic in Ibadan to the petty trader in Aba, everyone is competing, often against invisible enemies. Instead of lifting one another, we ridicule. Instead of mentoring, we mock. Nigerians build fences taller than their houses not just for security, but to hide what’s going on inside. It’s not just about being safe, it’s about being mysterious and envied.

According to a report by the World Inequality Database, Nigeria is one of the most unequal societies on earth, with the top 1% earning disproportionately more than the bottom 50%. Yet, even within the bottom 50%, the quest to “ _APPEAR BETTER_ ” persists, a sign that our value system is not just broken but dangerously inverted.

How Did We Get Here?
Post-colonial Nigeria inherited a distorted social structure, but what we’ve done with it is far worse. Decades of bad governance, corruption and social instability have made many Nigerians see survival as a game of one-upmanship. The social contract has broken down. Nobody trusts the system, so everyone looks out for themselves, even at the expense of others.

As Fela Kuti famously sang, “ _Suffer, suffer for world… enjoyment for heaven_!” Nigerians have been told to endure, aspire and dream (but the dreams are no longer about dignity or justice. They’re about owning iPhones, buying plots in Banana Island and being invited to exclusive weddings. The average man no longer dreams of a better Nigeria) he dreams of escaping it or at least looking like he already has.

The Way Forward: Reorienting Our Value System
It’s time we had difficult conversations. WHAT KIND OF SOCIETY DO WE WANT TO BUILD? DO WE WANT A NIGERIA WHERE SELF-WORTH IS MEASURED BY HOW MANY PEOPLE WE’RE BETTER THAN, OR ONE WHERE WE LIFT EACH OTHER UP?

As former Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan once said, “ _If you don’t value education, you will be ruled by ignorance._” Similarly, if we don’t value humility, empathy and collective progress, we will continue to be ruled by greed, classism and moral emptiness.

This is a call for social introspection. Let’s teach our children that drivers, cleaners and artisans are not beneath them. Let’s celebrate hard work over handouts, values over valuables. Let’s walk each other to the gate not to assess, but to appreciate. Let us normalize treating everyone with dignity not because of what they own, but because they are human.

Until then, _“I better pass my neighbour”_ will remain more than a noisy generator. It will continue to be the anthem of a decaying society.

I Better Pass My Neighbour: The Toxic Superiority Complex Destroying the Nigerian Social Fabric.
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com

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Police Repel Coordinated Kidnap Attack In Sokoto, Launch Manhunt

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Police Repel Coordinated Kidnap Attack In Sokoto, Launch Manhunt

 

Security operatives in Sokoto State have foiled a coordinated kidnapping attempt by armed bandits targeting two communities, killing one suspect and launching a manhunt for others who escaped with injuries.

 

According to a statement by the Police Public Relations Officer of the command, Ahmad Rufa’i, the operation was carried out in the early hours of Thursday following a distress call received at about 12:30 a.m. reporting simultaneous attacks on Illela Village, also known as Achida Town, and Kwargaba Hamlet.

 

“The Anti-Kidnapping Unit, in collaboration with other tactical teams, responded swiftly to the distress call,” he said. “Our operatives, who were already on high alert, engaged the bandits in a fierce gun duel and successfully repelled the attack.”

 

Rufa’i disclosed that the security forces overpowered the assailants after a prolonged exchange of gunfire, neutralising one suspect who was dressed in military camouflage, while others fled with gunshot wounds into the nearby Gundumi Forest.

 

“An intensive manhunt is ongoing to track down the fleeing suspects who escaped into the forest with varying degrees of injuries,” he added.

 

However, before the arrival of security personnel, the bandits reportedly shot and killed a member of the Kwargaba community vigilante group. His body has since been recovered and released to his family for burial.

 

The police spokesperson urged residents to remain vigilant and report any suspicious movements or individuals to the nearest security agency, assuring that efforts are being intensified to ensure the safety of lives and property across the state.

 

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The Kendrick Brothers, Cameron Arnett, Kingdom Story Company, Bright Wonder Obasi Train 60 Christian Filmmakers in Nigeria

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 The Kendrick Brothers, Cameron Arnett, Kingdom Story Company, Bright Wonder Obasi Train 60 Christian Filmmakers in Nigeria

 

 

Abuja, Nigeria – April 23, 2026

Successful actors, producers and movie makers like; the Kendrick Brothers, Cameron Arnett, Kingdom Story Company, Bright Wonder Obasi were among the facilitators who trained 60 Christian Filmmakers in Nigeria at the just concluded Africa Gospel Film Project (AGFP) 2026.

 

The groundbreaking 6-day Intensive Filmmaking Masterclass and Spiritual Formation Program, were 60 emerging Christian filmmakers from Nigeria and Zambia were trained in Abuja was held at the Gospel Cinema International /High Definition Film Academy (HDFA) Facility in Gwarinpa.

 

The program brought together a distinguished lineup of facilitators from Nigeria and the United States, positioning AGFP as a leading platform for faith-based filmmaking development in Africa.

 

Among the international facilitators was Stephen Kendrick of the Kendrick Brothers, known for films such as The Forge, War Room, Facing the Giants, and Courageous, Overcomer, Fireproof, who delivered a powerful session titled “Heart of The Filmmaker.” Also featured was Cameron Arnett, who led sessions on “Christ Over Career” and acting for film.

 

Other notable speakers included Nick Carey (Kingdom Story Company), who spoke on “The Making of a Faith-Based Blockbuster Movie,” as well as Bob Saenz (Screenwriting Masterclass), Beverly Holloway (Acting Masterclass), David Cook, Adam Drake, Prince Daniel (Aboki), Lummie Adevbie, Chris Odeh, and Jennifer Keltner (Identity & Storytelling), among others.

 

The program opened with a strong spiritual foundation, including worship and a keynote by the Convener, Bright Wonder Obasi, titled “Calling & Identity: Film as Spiritual Influence/Programming,” which challenged participants to view storytelling as a tool for cultural and spiritual transformation.

 

Participants were grouped into four production studios—House of Gideon, House of Caleb, House of Joshua, and House of David—and underwent three days of intensive masterclasses and workshops across screenwriting, directing, cinematography, acting, editing, and producing, alongside deep spiritual formation.

 

On Day 4, teams developed and pitched short film concepts for professional review and approval. Day 5 was dedicated to full-scale production, with all four teams executing their projects under real industry conditions.

 

The program culminated on Day 6 with:

A Pitch-A-Thon, where 20 filmmakers presented original projects for funding and collaboration.

 

A public screening of four short films produced during the program

Professional feedback from a panel of judges.

 

Certification of all participants

 

Awards for best Screenplay, Cinematography, directing, editing, acting, and overall best short film.

 

The closing ceremony featured a powerful commissioning session led by Pastor Ikenna Okeke, where participants were prayed for and consecrated as “God’s Creative Army.”

 

Speaking after the event, the Convener, Bright Wonder Obasi, described AGFP 2026 as “a movement to raise storytellers who will shape culture and influence nations through truth-driven films.

 

Films that honor God”

With its successful debut, AGFP is now preparing for its next edition, following its mandate to train 300 Christian filmmakers across Africa and develop a slate of six global faith-based films over a three-year period.

The Africa Gospel Film Project continues to position itself as a catalyst for purpose-driven storytelling, industry excellence, and spiritual transformation in African cinema.

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A Renewed Momentum: How the Chief of Army Staff is Repositioning the Nigerian Army for Decisive Impact

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*A Renewed Momentum: How the Chief of Army Staff is Repositioning the Nigerian Army for Decisive Impact*

By Comrade Oladimeji Odeyemi.

 

 

In times of prolonged security challenges, it is easy—almost convenient—for critics to amplify setbacks while ignoring measurable progress. Yet, across Nigeria’s diverse and complex theatres of operation, a different story is steadily unfolding: one of resilience, tactical evolution, and renewed operational effectiveness under the leadership of the Chief of Army Staff, (COAS, Nigerian Army), Lt General Waidi Shaibu.

 

What we are witnessing today is not a media hype or propaganda—it is the outcome of deliberate reforms, improved coordination, and a reinvigorated fighting spirit within the Nigerian Army.

 

*A Clear Shift in Operational Effectiveness*

 

Recent developments across, but not limited to Benue, Plateau, Borno, Yobe, Sokoto, Zamfara, Kogi, Kwara, Edo, and the South-East underscore a critical truth: the Nigerian Army under General Waidi Shaibu is not on the back foot. On the contrary, it is increasingly proactive, intelligence-driven, and responsive.

 

From the successful rescue of kidnapped civilians in Benue, to the interception of armed militias in Plateau, and the neutralisation of insurgents in Borno, the pattern is consistent—swift response, precision engagement, and tangible outcomes.

 

These are not isolated victories. They reflect:

 

– Improved intelligence gathering and utilisation.

 

– Faster troop deployment and mobility.

 

– Enhanced inter-agency collaboration.

 

– Better morale and combat readiness among personnel.

 

Such coordination, especially in asymmetric warfare, does not happen by chance. It is a direct reflection of leadership at the top.

 

*The Chief of Army Staff: Lt General Waidi Shaibu Driving Reform and Results*

 

Since assuming office, the Chief of Army Staff, Lt General Waidi Shaibu has brought a renewed sense of urgency and clarity of purpose to military operations. His leadership style appears anchored on three critical pillars:

 

*1. Operational Aggression with Discipline*

 

Troops are no longer merely reacting—they are taking the fight to criminal elements. Whether dismantling terrorist camps in the North Central states or repelling coordinated attacks in the North-East, or engaging the Unknown Gunmen in the SouthEast, the Nigerian Army is demonstrating initiative and dominance.

 

*2. Intelligence-Led Warfare*

 

Modern conflicts are won as much with information as with firepower. The increasing success in intercepting logistics suppliers, uncovering IEDs, and preempting attacks shows a system that is becoming smarter, not just stronger.

 

*3. Joint Force Synergy*

 

The collaboration between the Army, Air Force, Navy, Police, DSS, and local security groups has significantly improved. Operations in the South Eastern part of the Country and other regions highlight a unified national security architecture—something that has long been advocated but is now visibly taking shape.

 

*Addressing the Culture of Criticism*

 

It must be said plainly: criticism is not inherently wrong in a democracy. However, what is deeply problematic is the pattern of uninformed, selective outrage that ignores context, dismisses progress, and undermines morale.

 

Those who hastily label every security incident as evidence of failure often:

 

– Ignore the complexity of asymmetric warfare.

 

– Overlook the sacrifices of frontline personnel.

 

– Fail to acknowledge the vast geographical and logistical challenges involved.

 

Worse still, some narratives are built on speculation, ethnic bias, or incomplete information—such as prematurely attributing crimes to specific groups without verification.

 

This does not help the nation. It weakens it.

 

*The Reality of the Battlefield*

 

Nigeria is not facing a conventional war. The threats are:

 

– Decentralised.

 

– Embedded within local communities.

 

– Adaptive and unpredictable.

 

From insurgents and bandits to kidnappers and economic saboteurs, the battlefield is fluid. Success, therefore, must be measured not by the absence of incidents, but by the capacity to respond, contain, and degrade threats over time.

 

By this standard, the Nigerian Army is making undeniable progress.

 

*The Human Element: Courage and Sacrifice*

 

Behind every operation report is a human story—soldiers who leave their families behind, who endure harsh terrains, who confront danger daily so that millions of Nigerians can live in relative safety.

 

Some pay the ultimate price.

 

To reduce their efforts to mere statistics or dismiss them outright is not just unfair—it is unjust.

 

*A Call for National Support*

 

The progress being recorded today must be sustained, and that requires more than military effort. It demands:

 

– Public cooperation with security agencies.

 

– Responsible media reporting.

 

– Community vigilance against criminal infiltration

 

– Constructive, informed criticism where necessary.

 

Most importantly, it requires national unity in purpose.

 

*Conclusion: A Force Worthy of Confidence*

 

The Nigerian Army, under the leadership of the Chief of Army Staff, Lt General Waidi Shaibu is demonstrating that with the right direction, commitment, and strategy, meaningful progress is possible—even in the face of complex security challenges.

 

The gains may not always make screaming headlines, but they are real. They are measurable. And they are building momentum.

 

Rather than constant condemnation, what the Armed Forces deserve at this critical time is recognition, encouragement, and unwavering support.

 

Because beyond the noise of criticism lies a simple truth:

these men and women are standing between order and chaos—and they are holding the line.

 

This article was written by Comrade Oladimeji Odeyemi, an entrepreneur and an opinion moulder from Ibadan, Oyo State.

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