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Struggles of a Newlywed Wife: Overwhelmed by the Constant Pressure of Intimacy

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Struggles of a Newlywed Wife: Overwhelmed by the Constant Pressure of Intimacy

 

A newlywed wife has opened up about the struggles she faces in her marriage, particularly the relentless demands of intimacy. In a post that has gone viral on the social media platform X (formerly Twitter), she shared her frustrations about how her husband’s constant desire for physical closeness leaves her feeling drained and overwhelmed. According to her, her body hasn’t had a moment of rest since she tied the knot, as her husband seems unable to accept a “no” when it comes to intimacy.

Struggles of a Newlywed Wife: Overwhelmed by the Constant Pressure of Intimacy

 

In her post, the woman described how her husband reacts when she declines his advances. She wrote, “Since I got married, my body hasn’t had any rest. When you say no, they frown and won’t talk to you all day. But the day you say yes, you’ll suddenly become the sweetest mango on the tree.” She explained how, despite her own feelings and mood, her husband’s desires always seem to come first. “Marriage is sweet, but this constant knacking is one of the hardest parts. Whether you’re well or not, in the mood or not, as long as ‘boss’ is in the mood, you’ll have to please him.”

 

In addition to her post, the woman shared a video on social media, where she spoke extensively about the pressures she faces in her marriage. The video quickly gained traction, and it wasn’t long before a flood of reactions poured into the comment section, sparking a broader conversation about relationships, intimacy, and personal boundaries.

 

Reactions from users were mixed, with some offering empathy and others expressing their opinions about the woman’s public sharing. One user, @Slanddi, sarcastically commented, “Na man wey marry her I pity, Toto wey no rest before marriage, abi she take marriage like Toto retirement?” Others, like Ms. Sweet Soul the Writer, criticized the woman’s decision to air her marital issues online, stating, “Omo, what won’t people do for clout on social media. People be acting like they fell from trees. If you lack self-respect, at least respect your husband & family members & keep somethings private. Eh.”

 

Meanwhile, some users offered a more empathetic perspective. @curator_hub wrote, “Now someone has finally come out to speak for the voiceless,” showing support for the woman’s openness about the emotional and physical toll that constant intimacy demands can have on a person. Others like @ozmoneyyy and @sulucious jokingly reminded her that it could be a phase, with @ozmoneyyy commenting, “Every gender get wetin dem dey go through, men’s pocket too never rest,” and @sulucious predicting, “No worry, your husband will soon tire and you’ll be the begging.”

 

However, some users were skeptical about the woman’s intentions, with @Sasky_Mali asking, “Who dey marry all this kind one sef? Must you do makeup, set ring light, wear dress, to talk about your marital sex life??” pointing out the oddity of her setup for sharing such intimate details online.

 

The post has ignited a larger conversation on the balance between intimacy and personal boundaries in marriage, as well as the complexities of marital expectations. While some individuals sympathize with the woman’s situation, others believe such matters should remain private, questioning the line between seeking support and sharing too much on social media. Regardless of the mixed reactions, her post has sparked an important discussion about the realities of marriage and the importance of mutual respect and understanding between partners.

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Alleged Manipulation of Defilement Case Sparks Call for Review of Legal Advice in Lagos

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Alleged Manipulation of Defilement Case Sparks Call for Review of Legal Advice in Lagos

By Ifeoma Ikem

 

A legal controversy has emerged in Lagos following a petition seeking a review of a legal advice issued in a case involving two female teachers accused of negligence in a child injury incident at a nursery school in Ikorodu.

The petition, submitted by Crown Cannan Attorneys, urges the Lagos State Ministry of Justice to reconsider the legal advice issued on September 16, 2022, in the case titled Commissioner of Police vs. Ambassador Rukayat Tobiloba and Rukayat Lawal.

Addressed to the former Lagos State Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice, Moyosore Onigbanjo, the application argues that the legal advice may have been influenced by what the petition describes as a “deliberate manipulation of facts.”

According to counsel representing the defendants, the allegations stem from an incident that allegedly occurred on October 26, 2021, at Great Kezino Nursery and Primary School located in the Adamo area of Ikorodu, Lagos.

The defendants, Ambassador Rukayat Tobiloba, 26, and Rukayat Lawal, 24, were reportedly the class teacher and assistant class teacher respectively in charge of a Nursery One class where the incident occurred.

Court documents indicate that a three-year-old pupil, identified as Victim A, was reportedly injured after another pupil allegedly pierced a pencil into her private part during school hours.

The prosecution claims the incident occurred due to the failure of the teachers to exercise adequate care and supervision over the children under their custody.

Based on this allegation, the two educators were charged with negligence under Section 252 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2015, which addresses acts that may cause harm through lack of proper care.

The defendants were subsequently arraigned before Magistrate Court No. 2 in Ikeja on April 19, 2022, where they faced a one-count charge relating to the incident.

During the investigation conducted at the Gender Unit of the Lagos State Police Command in Ikeja, several civil society groups reportedly monitored the proceedings.

Among them were representatives of the African Women Lawyers Association (AWLA) and other non-governmental organizations.

These groups reportedly raised concerns about what they described as a growing tendency to weaponise allegations of child abuse in ways that could unfairly damage reputations and careers.

In its petition, the defence team argued that the case deserves a fresh review to ensure that justice is served based on verified facts rather than assumptions or public pressure.

They urged the Ministry of Justice to carefully reassess the legal advice and the circumstances surrounding the investigation to determine whether the prosecution should proceed as currently framed.

Legal observers say the outcome of the requested review could determine the next stage of the case and may also highlight broader concerns about investigative procedures and child protection cases within the justice system.

Reacting to a viral social media post by Ambassador Rukayat Tobiloba, who claimed she might be jailed for defilement, the head teacher of Great Kezino Nursery and Primary School, Mrs. Edaolaropin Toyin, provided the school’s account of events.

According to her, the pupil identified as Victim A was enrolled in the Nursery One class on September 20, 2021, which had about 15 pupils.

She explained that on October 26, 2021, the pupil was transported home on the school bus after closing hours and handed over to her father around 4:30 p.m.

“Later that night, the pupil’s mother allegedly contacted the head teacher, claiming her daughter cried while bathing and alleged that a male classmate, Victim B, had inserted a pencil into her private part during school hours,” she said.

The school, however, rejected the allegation, maintaining that no such incident occurred while the child was in its custody.

“The following morning, the teacher visited the pupil’s home, where the father reportedly denied the mother’s account of the incident,” Toyin added.

She said the situation escalated later that day when the child’s parents arrived at the school with police officers from Imota Police Station demanding that the alleged male classmate be produced.

The head teacher further stated that the school management had supported Tobiloba throughout the legal process.

“Since the incident happened, the school management has never stopped supporting Tobiloba’s welfare until last year when she sent a WhatsApp message saying she was no longer interested in the court matter, claiming she had relocated to Ibadan,” she said.

She described the claims currently circulating on social media as “defamatory narratives.”

 

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GEN CG MUSA SUPPORT INITIATIVE MOURNS FALLEN HEROES AND URGES UNITY IN SECURITY SUPPORT

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*GEN CG MUSA SUPPORT INITIATIVE MOURNS FALLEN HEROES AND URGES UNITY IN SECURITY SUPPORT

 

The Gen Christopher Gwabin Musa Support Initiative (GCGMSI) expresses its heartfelt condolences to His Excellency Gen Christopher Gwabin Musa OFR, Minister of Defence of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Grand Patron of the Initiative, and the families of the fallen heroes who courageously lost their lives in a recent attack by ISWAP in Konduga, Marte, Jakana, and Dalori in Borno State, northeast Nigeria. Among the tragic losses were three senior military commanders: Major U.I. Mairiga, Lt-Col Umar Faruq, and Lt-Col S.I. Iliyasu, who dedicated their lives to the service of our nation.

The GCGMSI implores the public to continue supporting our security agencies, emphasizing that the safety and security of our nation is a collective responsibility. Every day, our security forces pay the ultimate price to safeguard our country. We urge the public to remain supportive, pray for their success, and refrain from politicizing the security challenges we face.

This was contained in a statement signed by the Convener, Ibrahim Dahiru Danfulani Sadaukin Garkuwan Keffi/Betara Biu, which has been made available to the press. The statement highlights the initiative’s profound concern for the losses sustained by our security personnel and reflects on the broader security situation in Nigeria.

In his unwavering commitment to addressing the insecurity plaguing our nation, the Minister of Defence, Gen Christopher Gwabin Musa, has consistently engaged in urgent meetings with service chiefs, reinforcing strategic plans to combat threats and enhance national security. His leadership and decisive actions demonstrate a dedication to restoring peace and stability across our regions, ensuring a safer environment for all Nigerians.

GEN CG MUSA SUPPORT INITIATIVE MOURNS FALLEN HEROES AND URGES UNITY IN SECURITY SUPPORT

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SECURITY IS A SHARED RESPONSIBILITY: BACKING OUR MINISTER OF DEFENCE GEN. CHRISTOPHER GWABIN MUSA OFR

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SECURITY IS A SHARED RESPONSIBILITY: BACKING OUR MINISTER OF DEFENCE GEN. CHRISTOPHER GWABIN MUSA OFR By Ibrahim Dahiru Danfulani

SECURITY IS A SHARED RESPONSIBILITY: BACKING OUR MINISTER OF DEFENCE GEN. CHRISTOPHER GWABIN MUSA OFR

By Ibrahim Dahiru Danfulani

 

In these challenging times, it is essential for all Nigerians to rally behind our leaders, particularly His Excellency Gen. Christopher Gwabin Musa OFR, the Minister of Defence. The security of our nation is not a matter to be taken lightly or politicized. Gen. Musa, recognized for his unwavering dedication and sacrifice, has served our country commendably throughout his life.

Following the recent reshuffle of service chiefs by President Asiwaju Bola Ahamed Tinubu GCFR, which resulted in Gen. Musa’s retirement as Chief of Defence Staff, many voiced their concerns. Yet, upon his appointment as Minister of Defence, there was a renewed sense of hope among the populace. Gen. Musa has embraced his role with an unwavering commitment, often sacrificing his rest to ensure the safety and security of our great nation.

While it is undeniable that Nigeria faces security challenges, we must approach these issues with unity rather than division. It is crucial to recognize that those who politicize our national security are often those who have not contributed positively to the success of our security agencies. Instead of spreading negativity, we should support Gen. Musa in his mission to restore peace and stability.

SECURITY IS A SHARED RESPONSIBILITY: BACKING OUR MINISTER OF DEFENCE GEN. CHRISTOPHER GWABIN MUSA OFR

By Ibrahim Dahiru Danfulani

To achieve our collective goal of a secure Nigeria, we must provide Gen. Musa with the trust he deserves. His vision and determination, paired with our support and prayers, can pave the way to overcoming the challenges we face. It’s time for every Nigerian to put aside political differences and work together for the common good. Let us have faith in our leaders and trust in Gen. Musa’s ability to steer our nation towards safety and security.

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