When Comfort Becomes Complicity: The Hidden Violence of Neutrality. (How moral grandstanding silences empathy and what to do about it)

By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published on SaharaWeeklyNG.com

“Sometimes when you are not the victim you turn to be a priest.” The line is brutal in its honesty. It names a human reflex we would rather deny: WHEN PAIN IS NOT OURS, WE OFTEN SERMONIZE INSTEAD OF SYMPATHIZE. We reach for tidy morality plays, not messy solidarity. We become judges in robes we stitched for ourselves; confident, distant and wrong.

This essay argues that the priestly posture (moralizing from a safe distance) does real harm. Philosophy, history and behavioral science converge on one simple fact: NEUTRALITY and MORAL GRANDSTANDING in the face of suffering enable injustice. To resist that drift, we must choose courage over commentary, action over applause and responsibility over rhetorical righteousness.

The Priestly Reflex and Its Consequences.
It is tempting to stand safely on the pavement describing the flames rather than grabbing water. Archbishop Desmond Tutu warned against this pose: “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” That’s not rhetoric; it is diagnosis. Neutrality is not a vacuum, but a shelter for the powerful.

Sociology and psychology explain how we slide into the PRIESTS PULPIT. After the 1964 murder of Kitty Genovese in New YORK (long mythologized as “38 witnesses doing nothing”) scholars Bibb Latané and John Darley designed experiments (1968–1970) that established the bystander effect: As the number of onlookers grows, the likelihood of help falls. We diffuse responsibility, assume someone else will act and talk ourselves into spiritual aloofness: “This is not my place.” The original Genovese reporting was later shown to be exaggerated in parts, but the experiments remain robust: diffusion of responsibility is real and deadly. When we are not the victim, the mind reaches for distance and the distance breeds sermons.

Philosopher Hannah Arendt offered a chilling lens: the “BANALITY of EVIL.” Much evil, she argued, is not spawned by theatrical villains but by ordinary people who outsource moral judgment to convention and bureaucracy. “The sad truth,” Arendt wrote, “is that most evil is done by people who never make up their minds to be good or evil.” The priestly reflex is precisely this quiet abdication an appearance of moral clarity that hides moral laziness.

In political life, the cost is stark. Martin Luther King Jr. warned, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” The phrase is not a slogan; it is a systems insight. When we treat others’ suffering as a stage on which to display our virtue, we do not disrupt the system; we stabilize it. We offer commentary instead of consequences.

Moral Grandstanding: The Sermon as Performance.
Modern ethics has a name for the priestly reflex: moral grandstanding. Philosophers Justin Tosi and Brandon Warmke define it as using moral talk to impress others and elevate one’s status. It is the public square’s glittering homily, designed not to help the victim but to burnish the speaker. The result is predictable: OUTRAGE INFLATION, PERFORMATIVE PURITY TESTS and a CROWD that talks over those who are actually harmed.

Psychology adds more traps. Moral licensing whispers, “You’ve posted, protested or donated once, now you’ve done enough.” Empathy gap research shows our concern shrinks with distance, difference and politics. Paul Bloom, in AGAINST EMPATHY, cautions that unexamined empathy can be biased; he recommends compassion guided by reason. The point is not to feel less but to act more intelligently: to pair warm HEARTS with cool HEADS.

Economists Ernst Fehr and Simon Gächter showed that communities flourish when members are willing to bear a cost to punish WRONGDOING, even as uninvolved third parties. This “ALTRUISTIC PUNISHMENT” knits social order by signaling that injustice will meet resistance. In other words: the antidote to the priestly pose is accountable action, not decorative outrage.

Philosophy’s Demands: From Spectatorship to Stewardship.
Long before social media, Adam Smith described the “impartial spectator,” an inner witness that checks our ego and urges justice. Properly formed, this spectator does not excuse indifference; it rebukes it. Peter Singer sharpened the edge: “If it is in our power to prevent something very bad from happening, without thereby sacrificing anything morally significant, we ought to do it.” The drowning child in Singer’s famous thought experiment is not a metaphor to admire, but a command to act.

Edmund Burke is often misquoted, but his verified counsel is tougher and truer: “WHEN BAD MEN COMBINE, the GOOD must ASSOCIATE; else they will FALL one by one.” The instruction is collective. Association (organized, disciplined, sustained) is the opposite of priestly posturing. It is solidarity operationalized.

How the Priest Shows Up Today.
Victim-blaming in public discourse: We search for the victim’s mistake to absolve ourselves. Did they dress wrongly, protest poorly, speak too loudly? The “PRIEST” asks how the hurting invited their hurt.

Policy debates as morality theater: We score points; THE POOR PAY COSTS. When food, housing or migration becomes a backdrop for brand-building, real families become scenery.

Neutrality masquerading as professionalism: Institutions hide behind “PROCESS” while harm compounds. Procedure without courage is ritual; priestly incense masking the stench of neglect.

What To Do Instead: A Brief Ethics of ANTI-PRIESTHOOD.
Move first, MORALIZE LATER. When harm is clear, action precedes analysis. Call the ambulance, secure the scene, offer the seat, share the meal, transfer the funds, sign the affidavit. Discuss theory after the danger has passed.

Center those harmed. “Nothing about us without us” is more than a slogan; it is a safeguard. Design responses with, NOT FOR, the people affected.

Invest where it hurts (aA LITTLE). If help costs nothing, it usually changes nothing. TIME, MONEY, RISK and REPUTATION are CURRENCIES of real SOLIDARITY.

Build associational power. Burke was right: ORGANIZE. JOIN UNIONS, CIVIC GROUPS, NEIGHBORHOOD WATCHES, LEGAL DEFENSE FUNDS, FAITH COMMUNITIES. Lone priests deliver sermons; communities deliver outcomes.

Measure outcomes, not applause. Swap “DID I SOUND RIGHTEOUS?” for “Did we reduce suffering? Did we increase safety, freedom and dignity?”

Choose principled dissent over fashionable outrage. King again: courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. When your coalition is wrong, say so. When the headline is misleading, correct it; especially if it flatters your side.

Practice disciplined compassion. Bloom’s caution matters: PAIR FEELING with FACT. Target aid where it works; test programs; correct course. COMPASSION without COMPETENCE exhausts.

The Civic Stakes.
History is merciless to spectators. Societies do not collapse in a single dramatic act; they erode by a thousand small abdications: someone else will speak; someone else will vote; someone else will resist. The priestly reflex institutionalizes those abdications. It trains a generation to curate moral identities rather than carry moral burdens.

We can do better. The first step is to retire the pulpit we drag everywhere. The second is to recover the oldest civic technology human beings possess: showing up. Aristotle wrote that we become just by doing just acts. Not by liking just posts or issuing just statements; but by DOING.

A Final Word to the “Priest” in All of Us.
You and I are not exempt. We are all, at times, the safe commentator, the tasteful neutral, the careful non-participant. Let us give that figure a new liturgy”: When a NEIGHBOR SUFFERS, show up.

When a stranger is targeted, STAND NEAR.

When a rule shields cruelty, BREAK the SILENCE and sometimes the RULE.

When your comfort depends on someone else’s risk, TRADE your COMFORT.

The work is not glamorous. It will not feel like a sermon. It will look like grocery runs, witness statements, donated hours, early votes, shared platforms and hard conversations with your own allies. It will feel small; until it doesn’t.

The line we began with remains our warning and our way out: SOMETIMES WHEN YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM YOU TURN to be a PRIEST. The task is to turn, instead, into a neighbor. Let the record show that in our time the bystanders learned to MOVE, the neutral learned to CHOOSE and the preachers without practice learned to put their hands to the FIRE.

~ George Omagbemi Sylvester