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UK-Based Women and the Konji Chronicles: Navigating Weather, Loneliness, and Relationships
UK-Based Women and the Konji Chronicles: Navigating Weather, Loneliness, and Relationships
By Osahon George Osayimwen
Living abroad as an immigrant comes with its unique challenges, from cultural adjustments to emotional hurdles. For many UK-based women, the cold weather and lonely lifestyle amplify these challenges, leading to a surge in emotional and physical cravings often dismissed as trivial but rooted in deeper social dynamics.
The “Konji” Effect
Back in Festac Town, Lagos, in 2016, my neighbor’s confession became the talk of our close-knit community. He claimed he “accidentally” had a romantic encounter with a new tenant during the rainy season, a time when the weather, hovering around 22 degrees Celsius, encouraged more than just huddling for warmth. His story wasn’t unique. Nigeria’s rainy season, harmattan, or even lockdown periods often saw relationships, flings, and accidental intimacy blossom in surprising ways.
However, these “accidental” moments pale compared to what women abroad face, especially in the UK, where weather conditions average between 3 and 5 degrees Celsius—cold enough to test anyone’s emotional and physical resilience.
Loneliness and Individualism in the UK
In the UK, the culture of individualism means immigrants often face an isolating reality. People live in silos, overworking and neglecting normal social interactions. Unlike the communal life many are accustomed to back home, strangers are met with suspicion, and socializing often takes place online or within the risky confines of workplace romance.
For many independent and successful women in the UK, this dynamic is compounded by societal expectations. Men, intimidated by their financial independence, often approach them with fleeting intentions. These women, battling loneliness and the chilly weather, may let their guards down, only to find themselves stuck in a vicious cycle of short-lived relationships that rarely culminate in marriage.
The Emotional Toll
The emotional cost of these failed relationships cannot be understated. Frustration and disappointment push some women toward a lifestyle of casual encounters, seeing no harm in their choices as they seek comfort and validation. For others, this emotional toll creates a sense of urgency, making them vulnerable in the dating market.
Single men I spoke to described a dating scene marked by vulnerability and heightened desires. Many women in their 30s, burdened by societal pressure, seem more open to fleeting connections in a bid to find happiness, only to be left grappling with heartbreak.
Turning to the Familiar: Marriages from Back Home
Interestingly, a growing trend sees these women looking back home to Nigeria for marriage prospects. Men they once overlooked during their early days abroad are now seen as saviors offering stability. By presenting these men with the coveted “Japa Ticket”—a chance to escape Nigeria’s harsh economic realities—they strike a mutually beneficial deal.
For many Nigerian men, these proposals are irresistible. They see the opportunity to join their partners abroad as an answered prayer, blinded by the glossy photos of their would-be brides in picturesque locations. Yet, the reality often reveals the struggles and emotional baggage these women carry.
A Business Perspective
From a pragmatic standpoint, these women are simply applying the basic principles of economics: when a product (in this case, themselves) isn’t appreciated locally, export it to a market where it’s scarce. This exportation of romantic partnerships has led to increased success for some, but it also underscores the struggles women face in balancing societal expectations, personal desires, and cultural shifts.
Final Thoughts
The konji issue isn’t just about physical cravings—it reflects deeper challenges tied to isolation, cultural shifts, and the pressure to conform to societal norms. UK-based women, like many immigrants, are navigating uncharted emotional and social territories. Their stories are a poignant reminder of the need for community, connection, and understanding in the ever-changing landscape of life abroad.
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Underfunding National Security: Envelope Budgeting Fails Nigeria’s Defence By George Omagbemi Sylvester
Underfunding National Security: Envelope Budgeting Fails Nigeria’s Defence
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published by saharaweeklyng.com
“Fiscal Rigidity in a Time of Crisis: Lawmakers Say Fixed Budget Ceilings Are Crippling Nigeria’s Fight Against Insurgency, Banditry, and Organized Crime.”
Nigeria’s legislature has issued a stark warning: the envelope budgeting system; a fiscal model that caps spending for ministries, departments, and agencies (MDAs) is inadequate to meet the country’s escalating security challenges. Lawmakers and budget analysts argue that rigid fiscal ceilings are undermining the nation’s ability to confront insurgency, banditry, kidnapping, separatist violence, oil theft and maritime insecurity.
The warning emerged during the 2026 budget defence session for the Office of the National Security Adviser (ONSA) at the National Assembly in Abuja. Senator Yahaya Abdullahi (APC‑Kebbi North), chairman of the Senate Committee on National Security and Intelligence, decried the envelope system, noting that security agencies “have been subject to the vagaries of the envelope system rather than to genuine needs and requirements.” The committee highlighted non-release or partial release of capital funds from previous budgets, which has hindered procurement, intelligence and operational capacity.
Nigeria faces a multi‑front security crisis: persistent insurgency in the North‑East, banditry and kidnappings across the North‑West and North‑Central, separatist tensions in the South‑East, and piracy affecting Niger Delta oil production. Despite declarations of a national security emergency by President Bola Tinubu, lawmakers point to a “disconnect” between rhetoric and the actual fiscal support for agencies tasked with enforcement.
Experts warn that security operations demand flexibility and rapid resource allocation. Dr. Amina Bello, a public finance specialist, said: “A static budget in a dynamic threat environment is like sending firefighters with water jugs to a forest fire. You need flexibility, not fixed ceilings, to adapt to unforeseen developments.”
The Permanent Secretary of Special Services at ONSA, Mohammed Sanusi, detailed operational consequences: irregular overhead releases, unfulfilled capital appropriations, and constrained foreign service funds. These fiscal constraints have weakened intelligence and covert units, hampering surveillance, cyber‑security, counter‑terrorism and intelligence sharing.
Delayed capital releases have stalled critical projects, including infrastructure upgrades and surveillance systems. Professor Kolawole Adeyemi, a governance expert, emphasized that “budgeting for security must allow for rapid reallocation in response to threats that move faster than political cycles. Envelope budgeting lacks this essential flexibility.”
While the National Assembly advocates fiscal discipline, lawmakers stress that security funding requires strategic responsiveness. Speaker Abbas Ibrahim underscored that security deserves “prominent and sustained attention” in the 2026 budget, balancing oversight with operational needs.
In response, the Senate committee plans to pursue reforms, including collaboration with the executive to restructure funding, explore supplementary budgets and ensure predictable and sufficient resources for security agencies. Experts warn that without reform, criminal networks will exploit these gaps, eroding public trust.
As one policy analyst summarized: “A nation declares a security emergency; but if its budget does not follow with real resources and oversight, the emergency remains rhetorical.” Nigeria’s debate over envelope budgeting is more than an accounting dispute; it is a contest over the nation’s security priorities and its commitment to safeguarding citizens.
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Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba (Eritosin) Celebrates as She Marks Her Birthday
Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba (Eritosin) Celebrates as She Marks Her Birthday
Today, the world and the body of Christ rise in celebration of a rare vessel of honour, Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba, fondly known as Eritosin, as she marks her birthday.
Born a special child with a divine mark of grace, Rev. Mother Eritosin’s journey in God’s vineyard spans several decades of steadfast service, spiritual depth, and undeniable impact. Those who know her closely describe her as a prophetess with a heart of gold — a woman whose calling is not worn as a title, but lived daily through compassion, discipline, humility, and unwavering faith.
From her early days in ministry, she has touched lives across communities, offering spiritual guidance, prophetic insight, and motherly counsel. Many testify that through her prayers and teachings, they encountered God in a deeply personal and transformative way. Near and far, her influence continues to echo — not only within church walls, but in homes, families, and destinies reshaped through her mentorship.
A mother in every sense of the word, Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba embodies nurture and correction in equal measure. As a grandmother, she remains energetic in purpose — accommodating the wayward, embracing the rejected, and holding firmly to the belief that no soul is beyond redemption. Her life’s mission has remained consistent: to lead many to Christ and guide them into the light of a new beginning.
Deeply rooted within the C&S Unification, she stands tall as a spiritual pillar in the Cherubim and Seraphim Church globally. Her dedication to holiness, unity, and prophetic service has earned her widespread respect as a spiritual matriarch whose voice carries both authority and humility.
As she celebrates another year today, tributes continue to pour in from spiritual sons and daughters, church leaders, and admirers who see in her a living reflection of grace in action.
Prayer for Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba (Eritosin)
May the Almighty God, who called you from birth and anointed you for His service, continually strengthen you with divine health and renewed vigour.
May your oil never run dry, and may your prophetic mantle grow heavier with greater glory.
May the lives you have nurtured rise to call you blessed.
May your latter years be greater than the former, filled with peace, honour, and the visible rewards of your labour in God’s vineyard.
May heaven continually back your prayers, and may your light shine brighter across nations.
Happy Birthday to a true Mother in Israel — Rev. Mother Kehinde Osoba (Eritosin).
More years.
More anointing.
More impact.
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Electoral Act Signed Amid Debate — Tinubu Warns: “We Must Avoid Glitches and Hacking”
Electoral Act Signed Amid Debate — Tinubu Warns: “We Must Avoid Glitches and Hacking”
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | Published by saharaweeklyng.com
“President defends hybrid voting framework, says mandatory electronic transmission could expose Nigeria’s elections to cyber vulnerabilities and infrastructural breakdown ahead of 2027 polls.”
In a pivotal move shaping Nigeria’s electoral future, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu signed the Electoral Act 2026 (Amendment) Bill into law on Wednesday, February 18, 2026, at the State House, Abuja. The assent, attended by key legislators and political leaders, marks a decisive moment ahead of the 2027 general elections. Tinubu cited the need to safeguard elections against technological failures and cyber threats as the central reason for his decision.
“The transmission of that manual result is what we’re looking at, and we need to avoid glitches; interference, unnecessary hacking in this age of computer inquisitiveness,” Tinubu stated, framing the amendments as essential procedural safeguards rather than partisan interventions.
The law retains manual voting, counting and collation as the foundation of Nigeria’s electoral process. Ballots are cast and counted physically at polling units, after which Form EC8A is electronically transmitted to the Independent National Electoral Commission’s (INEC) portal. If electronic systems fail, the manually endorsed Form EC8A remains authoritative. This compromise reflects a balance between technological innovation and practical reliability, ensuring elections can proceed even amid infrastructural challenges.
A contentious element, Clause 60(3), empowers electronic transmission but stops short of making it mandatory, granting INEC discretion in areas with limited connectivity. Critics argue this optionality could weaken transparency, while proponents defend it as a pragmatic safeguard against system failures and cyber vulnerabilities.
Senate President Godswill Akpabio, who oversaw the National Assembly’s harmonization process, hailed the law as meeting Nigerians’ aspirations and addressing perennial weaknesses in result collation between polling units and central offices. He also highlighted provisions strengthening party democracy and internal election processes.
Former FCT Minister Nyesom Wike praised the prompt signing, emphasizing that it demonstrates a commitment to strengthening Nigeria’s democratic institutions and reducing legal and political uncertainty surrounding elections.
Despite these endorsements, some civil society organizations and opposition voices caution that the law may not fully prevent electoral fraud or politically driven result manipulation, particularly given the optional electronic transmission. This debate underscores broader concerns in Nigerian politics about institutional trust, digital readiness, and confidence in the electoral framework.
Electoral experts note that technology alone cannot guarantee transparency. One specialist observed, “Real-time transmission is a powerful tool, but without resilient infrastructure and institutional safeguards, its promise can become a vulnerability.” Tinubu’s cautious approach reflects this logic, prioritizing reliability over speed.
The 2027 elections will be the first test of this hybrid system. Success will depend on the integrity of officials, the robustness of the INEC infrastructure and the electorate’s confidence. Tinubu stressed that public trust is central: reforms must be credible and fully implemented to reinforce democratic legitimacy.
In sum, the Electoral Act 2026 represents a defining moment for Nigeria’s democracy, positioned at the intersection of technological opportunity and practical governance. Its effectiveness in delivering credible, transparent and trusted elections will set the tone for the nation’s political trajectory in the coming years.
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