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UK-Based Women and the Konji Chronicles: Navigating Weather, Loneliness, and Relationships

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UK-Based Women and the Konji Chronicles: Navigating Weather, Loneliness, and Relationships By Osahon George Osayimwen

UK-Based Women and the Konji Chronicles: Navigating Weather, Loneliness, and Relationships
By Osahon George Osayimwen

Living abroad as an immigrant comes with its unique challenges, from cultural adjustments to emotional hurdles. For many UK-based women, the cold weather and lonely lifestyle amplify these challenges, leading to a surge in emotional and physical cravings often dismissed as trivial but rooted in deeper social dynamics.

The “Konji” Effect

Back in Festac Town, Lagos, in 2016, my neighbor’s confession became the talk of our close-knit community. He claimed he “accidentally” had a romantic encounter with a new tenant during the rainy season, a time when the weather, hovering around 22 degrees Celsius, encouraged more than just huddling for warmth. His story wasn’t unique. Nigeria’s rainy season, harmattan, or even lockdown periods often saw relationships, flings, and accidental intimacy blossom in surprising ways.

However, these “accidental” moments pale compared to what women abroad face, especially in the UK, where weather conditions average between 3 and 5 degrees Celsius—cold enough to test anyone’s emotional and physical resilience.

Loneliness and Individualism in the UK

In the UK, the culture of individualism means immigrants often face an isolating reality. People live in silos, overworking and neglecting normal social interactions. Unlike the communal life many are accustomed to back home, strangers are met with suspicion, and socializing often takes place online or within the risky confines of workplace romance.

For many independent and successful women in the UK, this dynamic is compounded by societal expectations. Men, intimidated by their financial independence, often approach them with fleeting intentions. These women, battling loneliness and the chilly weather, may let their guards down, only to find themselves stuck in a vicious cycle of short-lived relationships that rarely culminate in marriage.

The Emotional Toll

The emotional cost of these failed relationships cannot be understated. Frustration and disappointment push some women toward a lifestyle of casual encounters, seeing no harm in their choices as they seek comfort and validation. For others, this emotional toll creates a sense of urgency, making them vulnerable in the dating market.

Single men I spoke to described a dating scene marked by vulnerability and heightened desires. Many women in their 30s, burdened by societal pressure, seem more open to fleeting connections in a bid to find happiness, only to be left grappling with heartbreak.

Turning to the Familiar: Marriages from Back Home

Interestingly, a growing trend sees these women looking back home to Nigeria for marriage prospects. Men they once overlooked during their early days abroad are now seen as saviors offering stability. By presenting these men with the coveted “Japa Ticket”—a chance to escape Nigeria’s harsh economic realities—they strike a mutually beneficial deal.

For many Nigerian men, these proposals are irresistible. They see the opportunity to join their partners abroad as an answered prayer, blinded by the glossy photos of their would-be brides in picturesque locations. Yet, the reality often reveals the struggles and emotional baggage these women carry.

A Business Perspective

From a pragmatic standpoint, these women are simply applying the basic principles of economics: when a product (in this case, themselves) isn’t appreciated locally, export it to a market where it’s scarce. This exportation of romantic partnerships has led to increased success for some, but it also underscores the struggles women face in balancing societal expectations, personal desires, and cultural shifts.

Final Thoughts

The konji issue isn’t just about physical cravings—it reflects deeper challenges tied to isolation, cultural shifts, and the pressure to conform to societal norms. UK-based women, like many immigrants, are navigating uncharted emotional and social territories. Their stories are a poignant reminder of the need for community, connection, and understanding in the ever-changing landscape of life abroad.

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Mayor of Brampton Honours IBD Foundation

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The City of Brampton has recognised Alhaji Ibrahim Dende Egungbohun for his remarkable contributions to a transformative initiative designed to empower women through essential skill-building for independence and self-reliance. This formal acknowledgment took place on August 15, 2025, in Mayor Patrick Brown’s office during a visit from the Africa Made Economic Growth Initiative (AMEGI) team. Represented by his wife, Mrs. Omolara Egungbohun, Alhaji Dende received the certification amidst an atmosphere of gratitude and celebration. Mayor Brown presented the certificate personally and extended his commendations to the IBD Foundation for their relentless pursuit of women’s empowerment, development, and their philanthropic efforts.

The Certificate of Recognition underscored Egungbohun’s unwavering dedication and tireless efforts to create diverse opportunities for women to enhance their skills, develop their potential, and ultimately prosper in their personal and professional lives. As a philanthropist, esteemed businessman, and influential social figure, his impact in Nigeria and beyond is both profound and far-reaching.

Egungbohun’s generosity and steadfast commitment have significantly bolstered the confidence of program participants, facilitating their ability to envision and construct brighter futures while strengthening community ties. In his acknowledgment, Mayor Brown stated, “Your dedication uplifts those working to inspire others,” highlighting the deep and lasting influence of Egungbohun’s work in empowering women.

Mayor of Brampton Honours IBD Foundation

This initiative is not just a standalone effort; it harmonizes perfectly with Brampton’s broader mission to advocate for and uplift marginalized groups within the community. Egungbohun’s contributions serve as a vital catalyst for transformative change, offering practical skills that enhance employability while reshaping the economic and social framework for women. Through an assortment of workshops, mentorship programs, and robust support networks, he has fostered an encouraging environment where women can fully explore and realize their potential.

As Brampton steadfastly commits itself to promoting inclusivity and equity, leaders like Egungbohun exemplify how collaboration, vision, and genuine enthusiastic engagement can effectively turn hopes and aspirations into tangible realities. The public acknowledgment from the city not only honors individual efforts but also sends a resounding message, inspiring other community leaders and stakeholders to step up and invest in grassroots empowerment initiatives that uplift and serve those in need. This recognition is a clarion call for collective action toward a more equitable and inclusive society.

 

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Tayo Folorunsho Nominated as Celebrity Special Marshal of the Federal Road Safety Corps

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Tayo Folorunsho Nominated as Celebrity Special Marshal of the Federal Road Safety Corps

 

 

Tayo Folorunsho, renowned youth ambassador and edutainment advocate, has been officially nominated to be decorated as a Celebrity Special Marshal (CSM) of the Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC).

 

Tayo Folorunsho Nominated as Celebrity Special Marshal of the Federal Road Safety Corps

 

The unveiling took place at the recently concluded FRSC Youth Hangout, held in celebration of the United Nations International Youth Day at the National Judicial Institute, Abuja.

 

 

Over the years, Tayo Folorunsho has distinguished himself as a passionate youth leader, consistently driving initiatives that inspire and empower young people. His recognition as a Celebrity Special Marshal is not only a mark of honor but also a call to responsibility—championing road safety, responsibility, and positive change within society.

 

Tayo Folorunsho Nominated as Celebrity Special Marshal of the Federal Road Safety Corps

 

Speaking on the recognition, Tayo Folorunsho emphasized:

“This is more than an honor; it is a responsibility to use my voice and influence to promote safety, responsibility, and positive change on our roads.”

 

This milestone reinforces his commitment to youth empowerment, social responsibility, and nation-building through edutainment and advocacy.

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FRSC Partners with Edutainment First International to Drive Road Safety Awareness in Nigeria

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FRSC Partners with Edutainment First International to Drive Road Safety Awareness in Nigeria

 

In a country where road accidents claim thousands of lives each year—most of them young people—the Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC) and Edutainment First International have launched a bold new initiative to change the narrative. On Thursday, August 14, both organizations hosted the maiden Road Safety Youth Hangout at the National Judicial Institute, Abuja.

 

FRSC Partners with Edutainment First International to Drive Road Safety Awareness in Nigeria

 

The event, held to mark United Nations International Youth Day 2025, brought together more than 300 participants, including members of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), students, youth leaders, and community representatives. Unlike traditional road safety campaigns, the hangout was designed as an interactive forum blending education and entertainment, where young Nigerians could learn, innovate, and commit to safer road practices.

 

 

According to FRSC data, young people remain the most vulnerable demographic in road traffic crashes across Nigeria—an urgent concern this initiative aims to tackle. Through storytelling, innovation, and collaborative problem-solving, the Road Safety Youth Hangout sought to transform young Nigerians into advocates for safety within their communities.

 

 

“This is not just about rules and regulations,” said one of the organizers. “It’s about equipping young people with the tools and the voice to change Nigeria’s road culture.”

 

Aligned with the UN’s 2025 theme, “Local Youth Actions for the SDGs and Beyond,” the program underscored the critical role of young Nigerians in advancing the Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), particularly those connected to health, safety, and responsible citizenship.

 

 

By focusing on empowerment rather than enforcement, FRSC and Edutainment First International signaled a fresh approach to road safety: investing in the next generation as the real drivers of change. The belief is simple yet powerful—an informed and empowered youth population is key to reducing accidents and saving lives.

 

 

For many participants, the hangout was more than just an event; it was a wake-up call. With interactive sessions infused with music, drama, and dialogue, young Nigerians were challenged to reflect on their daily habits as road users and to embrace leadership as advocates for safer communities.

 

 

As one youth participant reflected:

“Road safety isn’t just the job of the FRSC. It’s our responsibility too—because we are the ones most at risk.”

 

The maiden edition of the Road Safety Youth Hangout may have ended, but the movement it launched has only just begun. Its message was unmistakable: Nigeria’s fight for safer roads must be youth-led, collaborative, and relentless.

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