Editorial

5 Things You Should Never Disclose In A Relationship

Published

9 years ago

February 17, 2016

Things you should never disclose in a relationship – This sounds totally weird right? What happened to being honest with each other and laying yourself bare for your partner to see your imperfection?

What happened to sharing pasts and laying your cards on the table? Almost everyone knows what it takes to be in a relationship. It is understandable for couples to be all over each other at the beginning and be willing to let their partners know every aspect of their lives.

However, there are some dark details, shady revelations that could make the relationship crumble and take away the chances of most relationships working. Some things are inappropriate; sharing them with your partner could pull you apart rather than drawing you closer. Holding back certain information from one’s partner doesn’t make one bad in this kind of situation. Everyone has secrets they aren’t willing to let out. Moreover, if these things happened before meeting one’s partner, it would be better to keep them in the past. And in some cases where these things are discussed, the entire truth is hardly said.

Below are some of the things people hold back in relationships:

Sexual Irresponsibility

In relationships where the people have prospects to settle down and share a future, the people involved tend to be more careful about the kind of things they share. Most times the very smart ones avoid lying; they just avoid giving the expected answers. Everyone has a past. And in the bid to protect the relationship or a loved one, certain information is withheld. For instance, no woman comes out openly to tell her supposed fiancée about the number of men she’d slept with or how reckless she was as a teenager. Same way a man would hold back tales of his sexual escapades in order not to upset his future bride.

Abortion

Most ladies feign innocence when asked if they have ever had an abortion. A lot of them deny having being in that kind of situation. However, when complications arise in the future and there’s a need to confide in a doctor, these details come out. Without trying to be judgmental, some ladies find themselves in nasty situations and often make choices that may mar them for life. No man wants to settle down with a lady who has had multiple abortions. They may get skeptical about those ladies’ chances of giving birth later in life. And in cases where the men overlook it, they tend to get sentimental and are quick to point fingers when faced with delay in such relationships.

Deep Family Secrets

Certain information need not be shared about one’s family history especially if they contain embarrassing or sordid details. It would be completely pointless telling one’s partner about an abusive father or an irresponsible mother. But in relationships where one party decides to play fair and discuss these issues with the other party, they are unknowingly empowering that party with a weapon of defense. Sentences like “Your dad cheated on your mum too” could be hurtful at the long run.

Crush On Mutual Friends

Making your partner know you once had a crush on a mutual friend tends to make things awful in that relationship; your partner’s insecurity eats him or her badly that it degenerates to trust issues when you are with that crush. Men just like the women do not like to think that a friend holds a special attraction in their partner’s life. In extreme cases, they could do things to make the crush or mutual friend go away as they can’t bear leaving the mutual friend with their partners alone.

Illicit Affairs At Work

Who goes to work and come back to share news of sleeping with his or her boss? In relationships, many dating couples may express their concerns about sexual advances but no one ever talk about giving in to those advances. The implications of making this kind of confession could be severe; losing the trust of the partner or in cases where the partner is understandable, the cheating partner may be forced to resign in order to reassure the other partner it wouldn’t happen again. It is not a lasting solution however, letting go could be difficult for the partner cheated on.

Editorial

NGIJ Commences Governance Assessment Tour In Ondo State

Published

5 years ago

December 2, 2019

Sahara Weekly

The Nigerian Guild of Investigative Journalists (NGIJ) will on Monday commence Governance Assessment Tour in Ondo State to assess impact of Governor Oluwarotimi Akeredolu administration on the people.

A statement issued on Saturday by the Guild Public Relations Officer, Adeyemi Obadimu said NGIJ delegation would arrive Akure, the Ondo State Capital on Monday to commence the Governance Assessment.

Obadimu noted that the Governance Assessment aimed at rooting for the truth, getting firsthand information from different stakeholders and assessing impact of current administration in Ondo State.

”Our members from every part of the country will on Monday converge in Akure, Ondo State Capital for commencement of Governance Assessment Tour to assess Governor Oluwarotimi Akeredolu administration impact on the people.

”Our crew will engage critical stakeholders including traditional rulers, civil servants, labour unions, pensioners, top government officials, students, market men/women and others in order to get firsthand information about the current administration led by Governor Akeredolu.”

Obadimu disclosed that the guild has carried our similar assessment in Kogi and Bayelsa states, saying ‘this is part of our contributions to deepen Democratic rule in Nigeria’.

Business

Heritage bank partners with Multi choice to flag off BBN third edition

Published

7 years ago

February 5, 2018

Sahara Weekly

Sequel to successful outing of season-2 of the Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) last year, Heritage Bank Plc, has again partnered with MultiChoice Nigeria Limited, owners of the DSTV and GOTV brands to bring the third season of the entertainment to viewers across Africa and beyond.

The Big Brother Naija 2018 was launched on Sunday night with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu as the host with 20 house mates battling for the winning prize of N45 million which include a cash gift of N25 million and SUV Jeep among others. The theme of this year’s edition is “Double Wahala.”

The host said one of the innovations in this season was that viewers could give housemates secret tasks to do and some lucky viewers could win cash prizes of N1 million during the duration of the show.

The house mates will stay at the Big Brother House for the next 85 days to entertain viewers and the show promises to show case a lot of drama, intrigues and romance.

Speaking at the live streaming of the opening session in Lagos at the weekend, Mr. Fela Ibidapo, Group Head, Corporate Communications of Heritage Bank said, “When the last season of the reality show was about to start, some of us did know what we were getting into. We are back here again because last year was successful.’’

He said Heritage Bank believed in creativity and innovation and expressed appreciation to MultiChoice for the opportunity to be part of this edition of the show.

About 20 house mates were invited to the house in the third season of the show which began last Sunday night, with four of them debuting in a reality show for the first time in their lives.

This is an increase over 12 that participated in last year’s edition.

The new comers are Nina Chinoso 21 years- old, Vanessa Williams aka Vandora from Edo State, Teddy A 29 and Kelvin Burle aka K-Brule 23 years-old.

The others are Alexandria (a lady) 22, Adedayo Adewunmi aka Dee-One, a comedian; Princess Onyejekwe 25, Miracle Igbekwe, a pilot and model; Ahneeka 25 years and a TV presenter; Rico Savey,25; Bam Bam,28 years-old freelancer in acting and singing; Bitto Brain 26, Ifu Ennanda, an actress and business broker; Leo 25 years-old corporate hustler with a retail firm; Khloe 24 and a fashion designer; Angela 31 years-old film maker, Anto, Tobi- 23, Cee-C and Omololu Adetokunbo aka Lolu.

In the season two of the show, besides providing financial assistance to the BB Naija contenders, Heritage Bank helped them with business and advisory support services for between six to nine months.

This support helped to chart a veritable course and equip the housemates with the necessary tools to make informed business choices during their individuals’ careers.

In a bid to bring additional value to Nigerian culture, Heritage Bank also ensures that in partnering with the housemates, they take positive steps towards creating, preserving and transferring wealth to Nigerians.

Heritage Bank had also organised an SME enhancement capacity programme for the Ex-Housemates of the BB Naija and other emerging 21st century entrepreneurs at an SME enhancement capacity training programme.

Big Brother Nigeria was designed by its creators to attract controversies and create agenda for social discussions.

Business

How civil defence corps became a millionaire overnight with Skye bank Promo

Published

7 years ago

February 4, 2018

Sahara Weekly

Mrs Eunice Odubor, a 48- year old staff of the Civil Defence Corps, yesterday won the 4th edition of the season 2 reach for the Skye millionaire reward.

Forty other lucky loyal customers across Nigeria also went home with various cash gifts ranging between N20, 000, N50, 000 and N100, 000 respectively.
The cash bonanza and draw which took place at the busy Ekiosa market in Benin City, the Edo State Capital, had in attendance top management staff and Zonal officers of National lottery Commission which witnessed the occasion.
Presenting the cheque to Mrs Isibor, at the resident of the Obazelu of Benin Kingdom, Chief Osaro Idah, the group head Product and Innovation of the bank, Ndubisi Osakwe, said the presentation was a clear demonstration of Skye Bank’s commitment to continue to impact the lives of loyal customers.
He said: “Today Skye Bank has shown its capacity in supporting individuals and retail businesses. We started this journey a couple of months back…now in its 3rd year and this is the fourth in the series.
“We have given given rewards to customers who are loyal to Skye Bank, who have responded to our promo to put N10, 000 for 30 days in savings account and they will qualify to win up to N1m. Mrs Idubor of Foresty branch Benin who has been loyal invested N10, 000 and has won N1m and her account will be credited”
In his remark, Chief Osaro Idah, who presented the cheque to the winner commended the bank for blazing the trail in corporate social responsibility among banks.
Elated Mrs Idubor, who could not hold back tears expressed her gratitude to Skye Bank for the money and promised to tell others to bank with Skye Bank.
She said part of the amount will be invested into the education of her child who had dropped out of the Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma due to paucity of funds.
The Zonal Coordinator, National Lottery Commission, Mrs Kate Okocha, also commended the bank for the transparency and encouraging people to save by opening account.