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Blood on Our Hands: The Lusikisiki Tragedy and the Crisis of Male Violence in South Africa’s South
Blood on Our Hands: The Lusikisiki Tragedy and the Crisis of Male Violence in South Africa’s South.
By George Omagbemi Sylvester | published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com
A dark and agonizing cloud has once again descended upon Lusikisiki, a quiet rural town in the Eastern Cape of South Africa. This time, it is not crime as usual, nor one of the countless political betrayals that plague our people, but something far worse. A man is on the run after allegedly SHOOTING and KILLING his PREGNANT GIRLFRIEND and WIFE in cold blood. Yes, you read that right. A woman carrying life inside her (an unborn child) was gunned down by the very person who once claimed to LOVE her. Her co-victim? His own LEGAL wife. This is not just a tragedy; it is an abomination, an unspeakable act of cowardice and brutality that reflects the deeply rooted crisis of GENDER-BASED violence and toxic masculinity in South Africa.
The Lusikisiki shooting is not an isolated incident. It is another gruesome entry in South Africa’s growing list of femicides. It raises the same haunting question we have asked countless times: WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR MEN?
The Southern Curse: A Crisis Brewing in Silence. The southern regions of South Africa (especially the Eastern Cape, KwaZulu-Natal and parts of the Western Cape) have become breeding grounds for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, MURDER-SUICIDES and UNRESOLVED GENDER TENSIONS. What we witnessed in Lusikisiki is not new. It is a brutal cycle of pain that repeats itself, only with different names, different dates, but the same outcomes: BLOOD, GRIEF, TRAUMA and IRREVERSIBLE LOSS. This very year, not far from Lusikisiki, another man in Mthatha SHOT and KILLED his girlfriend before turning the gun on himself, leaving behind their 4-year-old daughter. Last year in Butterworth, a young woman was STABBED to DEATH in front of her mother by her ex-boyfriend. How many more sisters, daughters, wives and pregnant lovers must die before we say “ENOUGH”?
We must address the harsh reality: some men in our communities are not LOVERS or PROTECTORS; they are PREDATORS in plain clothes. And we, as a SOCIETY, are enabling them with our SILENCE.
Violence MASQUERADING as MASCULINITY. Let us get one thing straight; VIOLENCE is not STRENGTH. Pulling a trigger on a defenseless woman is not a SIGN of MANHOOD; it is the most disgraceful form of WEAKNESS. True strength lies in RESTRAINT, in WALKING AWAY, in PROTECTING rather than DESTROYING. Unfortunately, many young men in the Southern region are growing up without the emotional education necessary to differentiate between DOMINANCE and DIGNITY, between RESPECT and POSSESSION.
Too many boys are being raised to believe that women are OBJECTS to be OWNED and when they assert their independence, these boys (now men) respond with violence. That is not LOVE. That is SICKNESS. That is ENTITLEMENT. That mindset must be UNLEARNED.
A Pregnant Woman, A Mother, A Life Snuffed Out. Imagine the FEAR that gripped that young pregnant woman in her final moments. Imagine the BETRAYAL she must have felt. To carry someone’s child and be repaid with death. That is not just murder; it is an assault on humanity, a crime against the unborn and a blasphemy against the sanctity of life.
And the wife? She too bore the burden of COMMITMENT, TRUST and PARTNERSHIP, only to be met with CRUELTY. Two women. One gun. One man. The lives of families, friends and entire communities shattered forever. We must never NORMALIZE this MADNESS.
The Failure of Society and Justice. Let us not pretend that these incidents happen in a vacuum. Our JUSTICE system is slow. Our police often fail to act on protection orders. Our communities gossip, but they rarely intervene. Religious and traditional leaders, who ought to speak boldly against domestic abuse, often stay silent, choosing RESPECTABILITY over RESPONSIBILITY. When cases like this happen, we act surprised; but should we be? We ignored the WARNING SIGNS. We saw the VERBAL ABUSE. We saw the CONTROL. We heard the SCREAMS at night. We saw the BRUISES hidden behind SMILES and FOUNDATION, but we said “It is none of our business.” Well, now it is everyone’s business. Now, two women are dead. A child is dead before it could live. And the man is still on the run.
To the Youth: Violence is Never the Answer. To the young men growing up in the dusty streets of Lusikisiki, Flagstaff, Butterworth, Mthatha and beyond, listen carefully: VIOLENCE will never earn you RESPECT. You cannot control a woman by killing her. You cannot earn love with fists or bullets. If you are hurting, SEEK HELP. If you are angry, WALK AWAY. If she says no, ACCEPT IT. There are organizations. There are friends. There is therapy. There are police stations, churches and youth centres. Murder? That is the end of your story and hers. If you want to be a real man, PROTECT. DO not DESTROY.
Advice to the Community: Silence is Complicity. Communities in the South must wake up. It is time to say NO to the CULTURE of SILENCE. DO not turn the other way when a woman CRIES for HELP. DO not LAUGH off SIGNS of ABUSE. Do not SHAME VICTIMS. Above all, do not make EXCUSES for ABUSIVE men.
“O monna ke monna ka basadi” ~ A man is a man through women.
Let us begin to redefine MASCULINITY not as DOMINANCE, but as DIGNITY. Not as CONTROL, but as COMPASSION. Not as FEAR, but as RESPONSIBILITY.
Government’s Role: Words Are Not ENOUGH. Yes, President Ramaphosa has spoken against gender-based violence. Yes, there are legal frameworks and action plans. Yet how many more must die before those words translate to REAL ACTION? We need quicker responses, better protection systems, harsher punishments and a nationwide campaign targeting men, particularly in rural regions, with re-education programs and emotional support. This cannot be fixed by hashtags or photo-ops. It requires long-term investment in justice, education and community healing.
In the words of renowned African legal scholar Prof. PLO Lumumba: “The tragedy of Africa is not that our men are poor, but that their minds are imprisoned by archaic beliefs.”
It is time to free our men from the MENTAL CHAINS of CHAUVINISM and VIOLENCE; because until that happens, Lusikisiki will not be the last tragedy. It will be one of many.
Final Thoughts: From Tears to Change. We are weeping again. Another FUNERAL. Another SET of GRAVES. Another HEADLINE that will FADE in a week.
Let us do something different this TIME. Let us channel our grief into a MOVEMENT. Let us hold each other ACCOUNTABLE. Let us teach our sons DIFFERENTLY. Let us raise our voices for our DAUGHTERS.
Let Lusikisiki not just be the site of death, but the BEGINNING of CHANGE, because if we don’t stop this now, we will all have blood on our hands.
George Omagbemi Sylvester writes from South Africa and is a human rights advocate and journalist. This article was published by SaharaWeeklyNG.com
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Banwo Questions Omokri’s Conduct After Appointment As Ambassador
Banwo Questions Omokri’s Conduct After Appointment As Ambassador
Political commentator and founder of the Naija Lives Matter Organisation (NLM), Dr. Ope Banwo, has raised concerns about the conduct expected of diplomats following the appointment of Reno Omokri as Nigeria’s ambassador to Mexico.
In an article published on his website, www.mayoroffadeyi.com, Banwo argued that individuals appointed to represent Nigeria abroad are expected to maintain a level of neutrality and decorum that reflects the country’s diplomatic traditions.
The article titled “The Strange Case of Reno Omokri,” questions whether the tone of public political engagement associated with Omokri’s social media presence aligns with the expectations of diplomatic service.
Omokri, a former presidential aide who has built a strong online following through commentary on Nigerian politics and governance, was recently appointed as Nigeria’s envoy to Mexico.
According to Banwo’s article, the role of an ambassador requires a transition from partisan political commentary to broader national representation.
“An ambassador represents the entire nation and not a political party,” Banwo wrote, noting that diplomats are traditionally expected to avoid public political confrontations that could affect international perceptions of their countries.
He contrasted the roles of political campaigners and diplomats, arguing that the two require different communication styles and responsibilities.
“Politics is combative while diplomacy is measured,” Banwo stated in the article, emphasizing that ambassadors typically engage in dialogue, negotiation and relationship-building rather than domestic political disputes.
Banwo also pointed to the historical composition of Nigeria’s diplomatic corps, which has largely included career diplomats trained in international relations and protocol.
According to him, such professionals are accustomed to maintaining restraint in public communication because their statements can carry official implications.
The article also referenced the biblical book of Ecclesiastes to illustrate the author’s broader reflections on leadership and public office.
Banwo noted that the appointment of political figures to diplomatic positions is not unusual globally but stressed that such appointments usually come with expectations of behavioural adjustments.
He urged Nigerian public officials who hold diplomatic positions to prioritise the country’s international image and approach public commentary with caution.
“Nigeria deserves ambassadors who elevate the country’s image,” he wrote.
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How OPay Is Turning Product Architecture Into a Customer Service Advantage
How OPay Is Turning Product Architecture Into a Customer Service Advantage
In high-volume fintech markets like Nigeria, customer service can no longer sit at the end of the business process. When a platform serves tens of millions of users and processes millions of transactions every day, the old model of customer service, call centres, long queues, and manual complaint handling quickly becomes too slow, too costly, and challenging to scale.
The future of customer service in fintech is not just about answering calls faster. It is about preventing problems before they happen. This is where product design, technology, and risk systems begin to play a bigger role. Instead of reacting to customer complaints, modern fintech platforms are now building customer protection and support directly into the app experience itself.
OPay is one of the platforms showing how this shift works in practice.
Over the past few years, OPay’s product development has followed a clear pattern. New features are not only designed to make payments easier, but also to reduce errors, prevent fraud, and lower the number of issues that customers need to complain about. In simple terms, many customer service problems are stopped before users even notice them.
One of the strongest examples of this approach is OPay’s real-time fraud and scam alerts. Traditionally, customers only contact support after money has already left their account. At that point, the damage is done, emotions are high, and recovery becomes more complex. OPay’s system works differently. When a transaction looks unusual, based on amount, timing, behaviour, or pattern, the system raises a warning before the transfer is completed. This gives users a chance to pause, review, and confirm. In many cases, this stops fraud before it happens.
For users, this feels like protection built into the app, not an emergency response after a loss. For the business, it means fewer fraud cases, fewer complaints, and less pressure on customer support teams. This proactive model aligns with global fintech best practices, which prioritise prevention over recovery.
Another important layer is step-up security for high-risk or high-value transactions. As users move more money and rely more heavily on digital wallets, security cannot be one-size-fits-all. Adding too many checks to every transaction creates frustration. Adding too few creates risk. OPay balances this by applying stronger security only when it is needed. For example, biometric verification and additional authentication steps are triggered in sensitive situations. This keeps everyday transactions smooth, while adding extra protection when the risk is higher. This approach builds trust quietly. Users may not always notice the security working in the background, but they feel the result: fewer unauthorised transfers and fewer urgent problems that require support intervention.
Beyond visible features, OPay also runs behaviour-based risk systems in the background. These systems monitor patterns such as sudden device changes, unusual login behaviour, or transaction activity that does not match a user’s normal habits. When something looks off, the system responds automatically. Most users never see these checks. But their impact shows up in fewer failed transactions, fewer reversals, and fewer cases where customers need to chase resolutions. As a result, customer service interactions shift away from crisis handling toward simple guidance and assistance.
Together, these layers form what can be called an invisible customer service system. Many issues are intercepted early, long before they become formal complaints. User sentiment on social media provides real-world signals of how this system is being experienced. On X (formerly Twitter), some users have publicly shared their experiences with OPay’s responsiveness and reliability.
One user, @ifedayo_johnson, wrote, “Opay has refunded it almost immediately. Before I even made this tweet but I didn’t notice. logged it as transfer made in error on the Opay app and they acted almost immediately. Commendable. Thank you @OPay_NG. I’m very impressed with this!”
Another user, @EgbonAduugbo, shared “The reason I love opay so much is that you hardly ever have to worry, wait or call their customer service for anything cuz everything just works!”
While social media comments are not formal performance metrics, they matter. They reflect how real users feel when systems work smoothly and issues are resolved quickly, often without friction. This product-led customer service model becomes even more important when viewed in the context of OPay’s scale. At this scale, even minor improvements in fraud prevention or transaction success rates can prevent thousands of potential complaints every day. In this context, customer service is no longer driven mainly by headcount. It is driven by engineering choices, risk models, and system design.
OPay’s journey suggests what the future of fintech in Africa may look like. The next generation of leaders will not only be those with the most users, but those whose systems are designed to protect users, resolve issues quickly, and reduce friction at scale.
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Phillips Esther Omolara : Answering The Call To Worship And Transforming Lives Through Gospel Music
Phillips Esther Omolara : Answering The Call To Worship And Transforming Lives Through Gospel Music
Introduction : Phillips Esther Omolara (Apple Of God’s Eye) is an Inspirational and passionate Nigerian gospel music minister, singer, and songwriter dedicated to spreading the message of Christ through her songs.
Background : I was born and brought up in Lagos State. I am a devoted gospel minister and a worship leader who began her musical journey in the children choir later graduated to adult church choir at a young age, leading praises and also a vocalist in the choir.
Early Life : I was born on April 8th 1990 in Lagos, Phillips Esther Omolara is a native of Oyo state in Ogbomosho.
Family : Got married to Phillips Oluwatomisin Omobolaji from Ogun State and our union was blessed with children.
Education : I went to Duro-oyedoyin nursery and primary school Ijeshatedo, Lagos, where I laid the foundation for my academic pursuits. For my secondary education, I attended Sanya Grammer school in Ijeshatedo, Lagos.
During my high school years, I was already deeply involved in church activities. After completing my secondary education, Phillips Esther pursed higher education at Lagos State Polytechnic (LASPOTECH).
Musical Style : Known for [e.g., Inspirational songs, Contemporary Worship, Highlife, Reggae, Traditional Yoruba], and my music blends spiritual depth with creative musicality.
INSPIRATIONS AND INFLUENCES : I have no specific role model in the gospel music industry. However, I have expressed my love for songs from several Veteran gospel artists who have influenced my musical journey.
Some of the gospel artists whose music i admires include:
* Mama Bola Are
* Tope Alabi
* Omije Ojumi
* Baba Ara
* Bulky Beks
Mission : My ministry focuses on leading people to the presence of God and creating an atmosphere for miracles.
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