One of the major lessons I learnt very early in my career was the art of communication. I was taught how to communicate but equally as important, how NOT to communicate. It is a lesson I have shared with others over the years and will share with everyone who has seen that viral video of Pastor David Ibiyeomie
Let me issue a caveat upfront that this write up is purely to share insights on communication and not a theological or faith-based evaluation of the merits (or lack thereof) of either side’s position
Pastor David Ibiyeomie and Daddy Freeze have constitutional rights to free speech and beliefs.
So, let us look at the words the Pastor used verbatim.
“Anybody insult my father again, I will pray you to….. He may not talk but I will talk.
You can’t insult my father when I’m alive
“Tell Daddy Freeze, the day I hear him talk about my daddy again if I don’t finish him… Insult me, I wouldn’t mind but insult Oyedepo then…,
“that bastard, Any day I hear him talk about Oyedepo… do they know his father? Does Daddy Freeze have a father? That half-caste that is born by a Somalian”
“The day I hear him insult Oyedepo again, I will deal with him. Who gave birth to him? If he has a father let him show us his father’s picture”
“Somebody they gave birth to in a ship, does he look like a Nigerian? That’s a Somalian. I can’t let him insult my father”
“I curse the day he was born. If I’m alive and you insult my father, I will tear you into pieces. Those who have fathers don’t insult fathers”
“He can insult a father because he doesn’t have a father. Tell him oh! This is the last time he talks about Oyedepo again. He is a bastard.”
“A man who can’t marry, he has no wife. He can’t manage his home; he is coming to talk on television. Is it not his wife who left him?”
“A broadcaster, does he have a good job? I can’t be alive and you insult my father, that person is not born. I will kill you; I will tear you into pieces”
“Very soon I will arrest him and charge him and see which money he has. I will charge him to court, I will follow him with the law, follow him spiritually, I will fight him till he crashes. How much does he have”
“I will fight him to the point that he will say which kind of trouble is this. Someone that is a newscaster, how much does he earn? Someone who is trekking in Lagos… He will soon go to the cemetery.”
All this was delivered in a harsh and vengeful voice filled with wrath. Pastor Ibiyeomie was incandescent with rage
First, let us look at the major points the Pastor wanted to make( not in any order)
Thou shalt not abuse Bishop Oyedepo
Thou art an ordinary broadcaster
Thou art a Somalian
Thou art of dubious parentage
Thou hath no respect for elders
Thou art in life-threatening trouble with me
Thou art a nobody
There are a few more subsets of the above named points but let us for the purpose of this scholarly dissertation focus on these seven points.
So how should Pastor David Ibiyeomie have handled the matter? One fundamental mistake he made was that he spoke while clearly in a rage. That was a big mistake. Never ever speak to the world while in a REAL rage. Pastor David Ibiyeomie muddled his message because anger makes you garble your words. Very few people can speak eloquently and articulately while incandescent with rage and judging by the video, Pastor Ibiyeomie is not one of them.
Again, back to the question, how should he have handled the matter ?
Let us press the rewind button and see Pastor Ibiyeomie in front of his flock
Scene 1( Pastor speaking)
“ Ah yes, before we close, one of my young friends drew my attention to something on social media by someone who calls himself Dr. Something, Something
(Pauses to think)
Dr.. ehm, something to do with ice blocks. Holy Spirit, help me remember.
“ Thank you so much. The name just didn’t’ register in my brain. Sorry about that .
FREEZE
What has the Pastor achieved here? He has succeeded in positioning his adversary as a nonentity whose name he could not even remember.
Scene 2( Pastor Speaking and smiling)
“ So Dr. Freeze or Daddy Freeze made some comments which were critical of my Father in the Lord, Bishop Oyedepo which I found quite amusing because I don’t think he understands that when it comes to matters of Scripture, a doctor cannot be contradicting a Bishop and besides..”
( Shouts from the congregation and Pastor looks shocked)
“ What? Are you saying he is not a real doctor? Are you sure about that ?”
( More shouts from the congregation)
“ Na wa o. So why is he calling himself a doctor when he is not a doctor ?
FREEZE
What has the Pastor achieved here? He has succeeded in denigrating his adversary’s character and portraying him as an unserious charlatan
Scene 3 ( Pastor pacing and looking perplexed)
“ So what is his job then if you say he is not a doctor?
(shouts from the congregation)
“ OAP ? What does that mean? Is that what he does?
(shouts from the congregation)
“ Oh okay, he is a broadcaster? I see. Radio or TV?
(shouts from the congregation)
“ Did I hear CNN ? No? He does not work for CNN ? Oh, he works for a Radio station here in Nigeria ?
Ok, I see.
FREEZE
What has the Pastor achieved here? Without saying so directly, he has implied that his adversary is a “ mere broadcaster” working for a “local” radio station. This has been achieved without being offensive to broadcast media as well as situated the vocation as well below that of a Pastor.
Scene 4( Pastor now looking slightly vexed)
“ You know, when some of you described him as an OAP, I thought you meant Old Age Pensioner, but from what I am deducing, he must be quite a young man. Probably not more than in his 30s or 40s. That means by the time Bishop Oyedepo started working in the Lord’s vineyard, he was not even born yet. It’s a real shame because in this part of the world, we respect our elders and you just don’t speak anyhow to people older than you. Except he is not a Nigerian? Sorry, is he a Nigerian? Not Somalian ? Because that name Freeze is confusing…
FREEZE
What has the Pastor achieved here? He has succeeded in positioning his adversary as a rude and disrespectful person who lacks manners.
Scene 5 ( Pastor still looking slightly vexed)
“ So Doctor Freeze, sorry, Daddy Freeze is a Nigerian ? Interesting because most Nigerian parents are very strict about bringing up their children to be respectful to elders even when they don’t necessarily agree with their opinions.
Anyway…
(Pastor shrugs )
“ I am sure we all remember what the Bible says in Exodus 20 v 12 and I quote
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long. Bishop Oyedepo is old enough to be Daddy Freeze’s father and definitely his Spiritual father when it comes to matters of the faith. I don’t know how many of you here know him personally or maybe those of you watching this telecast, please pull his ears, please speak to his parents, especially his father who I am sure definitely wants his son to carry on the family lineage. It is important that Daddy Freeze sees the error of his ways and apologizes to Bishop Oyedepo. I know the Bishop has a forgiving heart and if like the prodigal son, Daddy Freeze begs for forgiveness, it shall be well with him and his days would be long.
FREEZE
What has the Pastor achieved here? He has succeeded in chastising his adversary’s parents for not bringing him up well, cast doubts on his paternity, threatened his life, and demanded an apology for Bishop Oyedepo.
To say that video of Pastor Ibiyeomie was not a good outing for him would be an understatement. He came across as rather coarse and agrarian. The biblical namesake David used a slingshot to fell the giant Goliath, not an AK 47 submachine rifle.
Less is more….
This article was originally published in The Cable( www.thecable.ng
Supreme Court Slams Door on Fred Ajudua’s Bail, Orders Immediate Return to Prison in $1.43M Fraud Trial
In a seismic ruling that sends shockwaves through Nigeria’s legal and social elite, the Supreme Court on Friday revoked the bail earlier granted to flamboyant Lagos socialite and alleged fraudster Fred Ajudua, ordering his immediate remand in prison custody.
Delivering a unanimous judgment, a five-man panel of the apex court dismantled the bail granted by the Court of Appeal in 2018, declaring it a judicial overreach steeped in procedural irregularity.
Justice Chioma Nwosu-Iheme, who read the lead judgment, minced no words as she condemned the appellate court’s decision, declaring it “an exercise in futility” after it had already ruled Ajudua’s appeal incompetent.
“The lower court, at that point, had no jurisdiction to proceed further. It had become functus officio,” she ruled, restoring the earlier decision of trial Judge Mojisola Dada who denied Ajudua bail in July 2018.
The decision marks a major victory for the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), which had petitioned the apex court to overturn what it described as a flawed and unjustified release of Ajudua—an accused at the center of a staggering $1.43 million international fraud.
The case, which has dragged for decades, centers around allegations that Ajudua, in concert with an accomplice still at large, duped a Palestinian businessman, Ziad Abu Zalaf, of millions under the guise of executing shady contracts backed by forged documents from the Central Bank of Nigeria and NNPC.
The scandal has long been a symbol of Nigeria’s struggle with high-profile financial crimes and delayed justice. With this ruling, the Supreme Court not only nullified the appeal court’s decision but also ordered a swift resumption of Ajudua’s long-stalled trial before Justice Dada of the Lagos High Court.
The EFCC had charged Ajudua in a 12-count indictment that included conspiracy to obtain money under false pretenses and forgery. Despite citing health concerns, Ajudua’s attempt to evade prosecution through bail has now been effectively shut down.
Legal observers say the ruling reasserts the authority of trial courts and reinforces the Supreme Court’s intolerance for procedural abuse in high-profile criminal cases.
“This appeal succeeds and it is hereby allowed,” Justice Nwosu-Iheme declared. “The respondent is to be remanded in prison custody.”
The court further directed that the matter be reassigned immediately for continuation of trial “within the shortest possible time.”
With the bail revoked and trial back on track, all eyes now return to the courtroom—where a case that began over three decades ago may finally see resolution.
#FreeVDM Trends as EFCC Secures Court Order to Remand VeryDarkMan Over Alleged Cybercrime
The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) has obtained a court order to remand controversial social media activist Martins Otse, popularly known as VeryDarkMan (VDM), pending the conclusion of an investigation into alleged cybercrime offences.
VDM was dramatically arrested last Friday outside a bank in the Wuse area of Abuja by a combined team of EFCC operatives, Department of State Services (DSS) officers, and the Nigeria Police Force. Eyewitnesses say the activist was apprehended moments after leaving the bank, sparking immediate online outrage.
The arrest has ignited a social media firestorm, with the hashtag #FreeVDM dominating trends across platforms throughout the weekend. Many critics argue that the arrest is yet another attempt by authorities to intimidate dissenting voices online.
“The remand order was granted to allow us to complete our investigation and finalize the charges,” a senior EFCC official told reporters, noting that charges would be filed under the Cybercrimes Act once investigations are complete.
Sources familiar with the case say the EFCC is building a case focused on alleged violations involving online financial misconduct, which fall under the commission’s purview.
As of Monday morning, VDM remains in EFCC custody, with his legal team led by rights activist Deji Adeyanju confirming efforts to gain access to him and prepare a legal response.
“We are seeking to visit our client and are reviewing the legal implications of his arrest,” Adeyanju said in a statement.
Despite the mounting public interest and widespread speculation, the EFCC has yet to release an official statement detailing the arrest or outlining the specific charges VDM may face.
The arrest of VeryDarkMan adds to growing concerns over press freedom and digital expression in Nigeria, where several social media commentators have recently faced legal action for controversial posts.
David Abioye Launches New Church, Living Word Conquerors Global Assembly, Amid Jubilant Crowd
Former Vice President and retired pastor of the Living Faith Church Worldwide, Bishop David Abioye, has officially inaugurated his new ministry, Living Word Conquerors Global Assembly, marking a new chapter in his over four-decade-long spiritual journey.
The launch took place today, Sunday, May 4, 2025, during the ministry’s first Sunday service, which saw a massive turnout of enthusiastic worshippers. The atmosphere was charged with excitement as congregants gathered to witness what Abioye described as the “manifestation of God’s eternal purpose.”
In a passionate address during the inaugural service, Abioye emphasized that the establishment of the new church was not the result of public opinion or personal ambition, but a divine assignment birthed from deep spiritual conviction.
“May I make it very clear that the inauguration of this assembly is not in response to demands of people to start a church,” Abioye declared. “But by the emergence of God’s eternal purpose, ordained from the foundation of the word, which is just coming to light at His own time.”
The renowned cleric explained that the Living Word Conquerors Global Assembly is founded on divine direction and is dedicated to the spiritual development, edification, and victory of believers worldwide.
Clarifying his role in the new ministry, Abioye stated that he does not view himself as someone attempting to fulfill the entire Great Commission alone, but rather as a messenger raised for a specific divine assignment within God’s broader agenda.
“In the name of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, for the spiritual development, edification, and triumph of the saints globally… this assembly is hereby inaugurated,” he declared, drawing a resounding “Amen” from the congregation.
The launch follows Abioye’s retirement from Living Faith Church in October 2024, alongside Pastor Thomas Aremu, after the church implemented a policy setting a mandatory retirement age for senior leaders. Abioye bowed out of active service at the age of 63, concluding a distinguished ministry career under the leadership of Bishop David Oyedepo.
As the curtain lifts on this new ministry, many see it not as a departure from Abioye’s legacy, but as a continuation of his divine calling—this time under a new banner with a global vision.